Threesomes and moresomes

another thing i just don't get...

Published on November 16, 2004 By dharmagrl In Personal Relationships

I overheard a conversation about swinging today. Not swinging like playground swinging, but swinging as in having sex with mutiple partners at the same time.

Now I'm no prude, but swinging and having sex with someone else and my husband disgusts me.

I can't get my head around the mindset....the women I overheard talking today mentioned that there was a lot of 'emotional love' involved. How? If you love someone enough to want to spend the rest of you life with them, how can you stand to see them having sex (of any kind) with someone else? How can you yourself stand to have anyone else touch you in a sexual way with your spouse in the same room; in the same bed even?

To me, swinging is basically cheating on your spouse, but with their permission and full knowledge. It goes against everything my marriage (and a lot of other marriages) stand for. It's physical infidelity, and I promised I wouldn't do it when I got married. Not only is it infidelity, I personally think that it shows a lack of self-respect.

Just one more thing to add to the long, ever growing list of 'stuff i just don't understand'.......

Comments (Page 4)

Rightwinger

on Nov 18, 2004

My wife and I have a bisexual neighbor who wants it from both of us. She keeps slugging away, trying to find ways work it around and get us to go along.
She'll never get it, of course, but I have to admit, from a purely egotistical standpoint, that I find it a bit flattering. Also, flirting with her and leading her on is like our own little in-joke, just my wife and me. Now, if I were single, I'd be on it like white on rice; 2-girl-1-guy threesomes are every man's fantasy, but I'm happily married, so it's a no-no. It's that simple.

dharmagrl

on Nov 18, 2004

My ex had a hissy-shit fit of jealousy and rage, accusing me of all kinda whoredom....and behaved so obnoxiously he got us kicked out of the club.

Do as I say, not as I do, huh? He sounds like he was a real nice fella, your ex.....

I was talking to D about it. When I got to the part about the 'emotion' in the room he just snorted out a laugh and said 'that's almost comical, it's so absurd'.

I just don't get how you can separate emotion from sexual attraction. I've tried in the past...trust me, my life would have been a lot easier if I could have done it....but I simply can't. I've tried to analyze what I feel, and whilst I can do that I can't tear emotion and attraction apart.

I'm not sure that it's entirely due to jealously either...for me, jealousy is a very different feeling than emotional pain, and it's not jealousy that I feel when I imagine myself and my spouse in that situation. It's pain, closely followed by what I think is anger, but I'm not sure. All I know is that it's a powerful enough force to make me want to hurt someone...and I do mean hurt. I dunno how much hurt, but it would more more than a couple of slaps and a kick, that's for sure.

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