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Published on June 2, 2004 By dharmagrl In Misc

..with nobody else.  Gotta love George Thorogood, huh?

Yes, I drink alone.  No, I'm not an alcoholic.  I don't drink every night and I rarely drink to excess, but that's neither here nor there.  I drink alone because I find that alcohol removes what I like to call my 'truth filter'.  I like to think of myself as a somewhat tactful person, and when I've had a few drinks that vanishes.  I'm blunt...painfully so sometimes.  So, in order to maintain friendships and relationships, I drink alone.  Occasionally I'll make an exception and have a few with really close friends....those who I've already spoken my mind to or who I know won't take offence to my lack of tact, but for the most part I don't get inebriated in public, or even with acquaintances. 

The reason I blog about this now is because I'm drinking.  Tonight.  Right now, actually.  I re-read my blogs, and in my alcohol-fuzzy state was really tempted to edit and re-post them, this time with names.  I read some other people's stuff and was again tempted to leave comments, this time saying what I felt in a much less...errmm...nice way.  Luckily (for me) I'm not drunk.  I'm not lit.  I'm not even buzzed (almost, but not quite).  So, I won't do any of that.  I'll keep my 'truth filter' firmly in place and be as tactful as I can be, even if what's being said makes me madder than a wet hen. 

I highly reccomend that some of you do the same.  Even if you haven't been drinking.


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on Jun 02, 2004
go back to my beer

I left a message on another blog about not having an addictive personality....so why does this start me drooling at 2 oclock in the afternoon

on Jun 02, 2004

Last time I went on a bender was a couple of weeks ago in California,

Holy cats! Last time for me was my birthday last June!!  Btw..you always seem to be 'on the road'...are you ever home?  And how does your wife deal with you being gone all the time?  I know I had a hard time dealing with Lonesome being gone..shit, I still do have a hard time with Lonesome being gone (especially when he goes out and drinks) and it's been almost a year.  Sorry if I'm being personal, but I'm just curious..you don;t have to answer if you don't want to.

Gerry - Never underestimate the power of a nice cold brew.  Goes down a treat, no matter what time it is.

 

on Jun 03, 2004
Not always on the road; I've just been on two TDYs in the past two months. I guess she misses me. That's what she says in the emails, anyway. The next year will be good and bad, as I won't be gone anywhere, but I'll be doing atrocious shift work. Last time I was on that schedule, she moved away to pursue other career options. After she came back, she told me we were never doing that again... I guess we'll see.
on Jun 03, 2004

I know one thing that you can toast to Dharma!  Congrats on becoming an "Elite" user (3)... !!!

on Jun 03, 2004
I think a little candor is a good thing personally, i mean if someone had something mean to say to me i'd rather they said it to my face, and just told me exactly what they thought, rather than keeping me in the dark, or bitching about me behind my back or somethin. Besides, it's not good to bottle things up, my mom says it gives you wrinkles...

Oh and I thought ur sons little story was so cute! You might have a best seller there...
love DYl xxx
on Jun 03, 2004
I have no filter when I'm drunk but I am not a mean drunk.  I tend to tell more personal stuff than I would normally.  I am also a "I love you man" drunk   I do most of my dancing while under the influence also.
on Jun 03, 2004

she told me we were never doing that again

I said the same thing to Lonesome about going remote.  Never again.  He's done his required year, so he's not going to go again.....we'll see about that too.  One good thing - TDY's are never going to seem as bad  again after this!

Shift work made our lives slightly miserable as well.  He used to be on swings and mids...3 swing shifts, followed by 3 mids shifts, followed by 3 days off.  When he was on mids it seemes like he was always sleeping or at work....put a little bit of a strain on us.  However, I'd give almost anything to have him in the same house as me again, even if it's only to sleep...oh well.  10 weeks and this will all be over...I hope.

on Jun 03, 2004

I have no filter when I'm drunk but I am not a mean drunk.

I'm not mean either...just very honest and truthful about stuff.  I don't go looking for people to be truthful with, but I'm very to-the-point about things if they ask or the subject comes up.

I'm a "I love you" drunk too.  I get very huggy....and dancing?  I bust some of my best moves under the influence!

on Jun 03, 2004
I bust some of my best moves under the influence!


I usually bust something too....it's usually my arse.

Next round is on me
on Jun 03, 2004

it's usually my arse.

Yeah, that'd be what happened when you fell down the slope into the brambles, huh?  Sure you weren't tipsy at the time?

Seriously Mason, I'm sorry that it didn't work out for you. :/

 

on Jun 03, 2004
Thanks Dharma, that's just my luck the past few years. No reason to think it should change now.
on Jun 03, 2004

that's just my luck the past few years. No reason to think it should change now

You and me both.  I was wondering last night just what the hell I had done in order to induce such horrible karma to come upon me.  This past year has been one of the worst I've ever had...everything I have touched has fallen to pieces, it seems. 

I'm wondering if it's ever going to end as well.

on Jun 03, 2004
Oooh - the truthful drunk! I've reined her back in for the time being. I never really had a problem with being too opinionated (well, while drunk and compared to others), but I would always tell people things that they weren't supposed to know, then blame the people who'd told me in the first place as they 'should have known not to trust me with any sort of information - I'm hopeless at keeping secrets after a few drinks. Everyone knows that'. Nice excuse, hey?
After really ruining things for someone (not on purpose, but does that really matter when everything's gone to sh*t?) I had a stern talking to myself and somehow Little Miss Tattle Tale has gone away. Don't know how this works, but glad it does all the same!

Now I'm like you and Jill - love EVERYONE, dance like a banshee and generally make a fool of myself (oh - and kiss the odd stranger like Nicky G )

Enjoy your beer and feel free to be as truthful as you like with me! You're comments are always welcome

Suz
on Jun 03, 2004

Hey Suz!

I too have had to have the self-chastising talk...which led to my decision to not get drunk in public.

I do like to dance though.  I'd love to go dancing one night..... 

on Jun 03, 2004
I'm a happy drunk. I tend to be kind of reserved in social settings, until I get a few drinks in me...then I'm everyone's best friend. I've been falling-down drunk more than a few times (I don't really like getting *that* hammered) but if I got a buzz on it's fantastic social lubrication.

-- B
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