A relationship has to be mutually beneficial to be successful. If one person feels like all they do is give and never gets anything in return (which sounds like your problem) then something has to change. Both of you need to feel loved and appreciated. Of course noone feels that way all of the time but if it is a case of never feeling that way, well, you already know it's a monumental problem.

I certainly hope you can get through to him and he can show the love you need.

~hugs~

(((((K))))

Damn.

Of course noone feels that way all of the time but if it is a case of never feeling that way, well, you already know it's a monumental problem.

Exactly.  I don't expect things to be rosy all the time; that's not practical and it's not gonna happen.  I just deserve better than a pat on the head and a 'good girl; you did the dishes so I'll love you now!'.

I deserve WAY better than that.

I certainly hope you can get through to him and he can show the love you need.

I've tried every way I know how.  I'm on the verge of giving up.

 

(((((K))))

Ok, now I'm crying all over my keyboard!  Thank you, chickie - and I mean that honestly, not sarcastically.

Damn.

Yeah.  I'm glad to 'see' you, Gene.  I'm still waiting for my phone to ring, btw.

Damn is right.


((((((((K)))))))))

(((((K))))

Damn is right. ((((((((K)))))))))

Thank you.  I'm ok, really.  It'll all be fine; it was a good thing that all this came out.  Now I can begin to heal and decide what I want to do.  I'm not going to make any snap decisions, I'm going to take it slow and see what happens. 

(((((K))))

Thank you, too.  Like I said, I'll be ok.  If this is meant to be, it will be. 

 

 

Sending hugs D. 

Thinking of you...

Sending love and hugs (((((((((((((((((((((((((((Karen))))))))))))))))

 

I'm still waiting for my phone to ring, btw.

Sending hugs D.

Aww, thank you!

Thinking of you...

Thank you, too.  And thank you for the christmas card.  It's really something to see Santa on the beach in his shorts and undershirt!

 

Sending love and hugs

Thank you.

Gene Nash

Just so's you know, today is not a good day to call me.  I've had a cold all week and it's decided to settle in my larynx, leaving me pretty much voiceless.  I can whisper, but that's about it.

Just what I need.

I can whisper, but that's about it.

When it rains it pours?

I think I just missed you on Yahoo.

I think I just missed you on Yahoo

Yep, you did.  But we'll catch up later.  Or tomorrow.  Or sometime.  I gots all kinds of time now that I aint workin'.

Conundrums for you guys too, eh?

Yep.  Should I stay and give it another go, or should I leave?  I mean, I love him.  He's an arsehole, but I love him and I know that underneath all this bullshit picking fights with me he's not only a good guy, but that he loves me too.  We just cannot seem to get past the fights, most of which boil down to semantics.  Literally.

If I leave, I......well, I'm not going to go there.  I don't have good self-esteem right now (part of which is due to the constant and unending lack of compliments over the past 14 years) and I don't think that I'm worth much.  I mean, who's gonna want to be with short chubby little me?  I don't have a job, I have 3 kids.....I'm not exactly catch of the century.  Or even of the decade.

What a great Christmas this is turning out to be.