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Published on November 14, 2005 By dharmagrl In Misc

My daughter's been talking about this boy in some of her classes since the start of the school year.

His name is Nick. Nick has cerebral palsy.  He's in a mototized wheelchair and has an assistant to help him out during the day.  He's in regular classes, but he has a hard time writing so someone comes with him to take notes for him.

Shea really likes Nick.  She sits with him at lunch when their schedules allow, and hangs out with him between classes.  They do really well together...she thinks he's funny and he thinks she's smart. She's asked him about his condition and has come home and asked me questions about it as well, so she's pretty informed about why he is the way he is.

Shea came home today and said that she got into it with some kid at lunchtime.  I asked why....it's not like her to get into it with kids.

Nick apparently has a hard time verbalizing, and occasionally drools.  Shea had overheard some kid making fun of him, and she had gone over and told him that making fun of a disabled person is the lowest for of humor and that he should be ashamed of himself.

I was so proud of her!  She said that she's not going to sit around and let anyone make fun of Nick, that it's not fair because he can't help the way he is.  "I'm sure if he could choose he wouldn't be in a chair, Mom" she said "but he is, and that's the way things are and I'm not going to any morons make fun of him - THEY'RE the retards, not Nick".

That's my girl!


Comments
on Nov 14, 2005
Sounds like you guys are teaching your kids well K.
on Nov 14, 2005

Sounds like you guys are teaching your kids well K.


Geezer! Where have you been, you old fart?!! I've been wondering where in the hell you got to.

Thanks. We're trying to teach them to treat people as more than their disability or defect....as individuals, regardless of what they look like.
on Nov 14, 2005
Good for her D.

However I have to say if I had a kid with cerebral palsy I don't know for sure I'd want him in public schools. I don't think I could take someone making fun of him. Yes I said ME. I can't stand to see my kids suffer.

That is a hard call as a parent I am sure. But all you can do is support them once they make the decision. Sounds like little D is doing that.

on Nov 14, 2005
That's your gal! Congratulations!

And thank you! FOr raising her right!
on Nov 14, 2005

However I have to say if I had a kid with cerebral palsy I don't know for sure I'd want him in public schools. I don't think I could take someone making fun of him.

I would be the same way.  When she told me about it, I wanted to go up there and kick someone's ass, and I haven't even met him yet!

Nick is in regular classes with kids his age, and he's keeping up.  I think that's awesome. 

on Nov 14, 2005
Good for her. Compassion and tolerance are lessons that are hard to teach when kids don't get a chance to experience practical application. I'm glad that Shea's had that opportunity.

Good job, mom.
on Nov 14, 2005
I think that's awesome.


Wow me too!
on Nov 15, 2005
Tell Shea to keep fighting the good fight, and let her know that if she needs someone to help her regulate, I got her back.
on Nov 16, 2005
Sorry I'm a little late replying to this...but GO SHEA! It takes a strong person to stand up for someone who isn't able to stand up for him/herself. And I think that it's hard for kids to understand about diabilities and such, too...not that that's an excuse, but I think it's something that you grow into...
on Nov 18, 2005
How wonderful that Nick has a true friend in your daughter. Not only is it rare to find a child your daughter's age to speak up it's rare to even to find an adult who does it.

You should be very proud, Dharma. If it made me, a complete stranger, smile and feel good about her good deed I can only imagine how you felt.

Way to go, Shea, and you know why. And way to go too, Dharma, and you know why,too.