This is going too far

Published on September 22, 2005 By dharmagrl In Misc

"Your parents don't need to be calling here and complaining. If you're late for lunch, it's your fault, not mine"

"...I wouldn't go run to my mommy and say "waaah"!! I didn't get to eat!...."

"This room is like my house. I'm going to do what I want to in my house..."

All of the above are statements that my son's teacher made to him and the rest of his class this morning after she had spoken to my husband.

I personally think that they're HIGHLY inappropriate.

I'm so mad right now, I can't think straight. I was going to call the school, but I'm too mad to be articulate, so I'm going to wait until tomorrow.

How DARE she.

Comments (Page 1)

InBloom

on Sep 22, 2005

Dharma, go straight to the school and file a complaint. They HAVE to take your concerns seriously. I am embarassed to be sharing the same profession with someone like that.

KarmaGirl

on Sep 22, 2005

I think you need to meet with the teacher in person. Ask if she feels good about herself when she pushes around children. Man, there are so many teachers looking for jobs right now. I can't believe that people like that still have a job.

And then they have the nerve to criticize parents.......

dharmagrl

on Sep 22, 2005

Dharma, go straight to the school and file a complaint.

I think that's exactly what I'm going to do tomorrow morning. I'm done pussyfooting around...we tried to do the right thing and talk to the teacher about it, and it got us nowhere.

I'm still mad. But I'm not shouting mad anymore....now it's more of a collected, calm mad.

dharmagrl

on Sep 22, 2005

Ask if she feels good about herself when she pushes around children.

I makes me want to push HER around.

She berated my child. She berated ALL the kids in that class. Every one of them. They didn't deserve that, all they did was tell the truth to their parents when we asked why they came home with still-full lunchboxes.

When my child is in school, I'm entrusting his care and well-being to his teacher and the school staff. They are, in a way, acting in loco parentis. I'm no longer comfortable with that arrangement; I don't feel like she's advocating for my kid.

msladydeath

on Sep 22, 2005

I'd talk to a lawyer and see if he would like to join you at your little "conference" with the teacher. Then see how serious she takes you. I'd have the Witches JOB for that!!

ParaTed2k

on Sep 22, 2005

If this is an on base school, there are three more calls you need to make (in addition to the school). The base school board, the Garrison Commander (or whatever the AF equivolent is), and the Base Commander's office.

My wife was on the school board at Ft. Bragg, this is just the kind of crap from teachers that were of interest to them. The Garrison Commander's office is responsible for the infrastructure on the base, and the Commander probably has some kind of 1(800) number for complaints that go beyond "chain of command" problems... which this seems to be.

Apparently it isn't just the lunch ladies who forget who they are there to support.

dharmagrl

on Sep 22, 2005

This is a civilian school district that has a school on base. It's not a DoD school; if it were I'd have called the base commander this afternoon.

When i talk to the principal tomorrow, I'm making it clear that if I get no resolution from her I'll go to the school district and file a complaint with them.

I'd have the Witches JOB for that!!

I'm not asking for her to get fired, I just want her to tell me how she can justify saying what she did to all the kids in that class. I also want reassurance that it will NEVER happen again. Period.

dharmagrl

on Sep 22, 2005

Oh, I called my frined K to tell her...she asked her boy what the teacher said to them today, and he repeated almost exactly the same words that my Davey said. Nobody prompted him, nobody put words in his mouth...so it's been verified that those were the words and tone that she used.

I'd like to see her try and justify it. I'd LOVE to see that.....

MarcieMoo

on Sep 22, 2005

First of all, bite me. If you have something to say to me, say it to me instead of the snide-ass remarks all over.

Second, you're right...Karen should go in and completely confront this teacher. I wouldn't let my child be talked to like that, not when its his physical well-being in question...and the other kids' well-being as well. She didn't have the right to say those kinds of things to her students by any means. I think the kitchen staff needs to be mindful that the kids need time to eat as well so they don't get tummy aches and so they actually get enough calories to make it through the rest of the day. Lots of schools are doing recess BEFORE lunch nowadays...I think that helps cut down on aches later on in the day. It's FIVE minutes out of this teacher's schedule. It's a bathroom break (which I've eliminated...thus saving like HALF AN HOUR every day--my kids know that if I'm not talking and it's their work time, they can just take the pass and go without asking). It's other wasteful time that can be made up somewhere else.

But...of course, I am an ignoramous teacher and my comments are null.

dharmagrl

on Sep 22, 2005

Second, you're right...Karen should go in and completely confront this teacher. I wouldn't let my child be talked to like that, not when its his physical well-being in question...and the other kids' well-being as well. She didn't have the right to say those kinds of things to her students by any means.

Thank you! Coming from you and InBloom who are both certified teachers, that means a lot.

What grade is he in again, dharma?

He's in 5th grade. And she is being a bit of a bitch.

MarcieMoo

on Sep 22, 2005

Thank you! Coming from you and InBloom who are both certified teachers, that means a lot.

Thank YOU! I'd first talk to the teacher and try to sort things out, and then if that didn't work I'd go see administration. Teachers appreciate that kind of a thing, and administrators do, too.

Keep us updated.

citahellion

on Sep 22, 2005

I'd first talk to the teacher and try to sort things out, and then if that didn't work I'd go see administration. Teachers appreciate that kind of a thing, and administrators do, too.

I think she's past the point of talking to the teacher to try and sort things out. That's how she got this lovely set of quotes, by trying to work with the teacher so far.

Zoologist03

on Sep 22, 2005

"...I wouldn't go run to my mommy and say "waaah"!! I didn't get to eat!....""This room is like my house. I'm going to do what I want to in my house..."

Ooooh...if I someone said that to my kid, I would fly off on them...I have a horrible temper, and those two phrases just piss me off...take that bitch down, dharma....

~Zoo

dharmagrl

on Sep 22, 2005

Thank YOU! I'd first talk to the teacher and try to sort things out, and then if that didn't work I'd go see administration

Welcome, and I already did. Dave called her this morning, and these comments are what she said to the kids after she got done talking to him.

I think she's past the point of talking to the teacher to try and sort things out. That's how she got this lovely set of quotes, by trying to work with the teacher so far.

Exactly. We gave her the opportunity to work with us on the kids and their lunchtimes, and this is how she reacted. So, we're done talking to her, unless it's in the presence of the principal/superintendent.

...take that bitch down, dharma....

I don't want to get her fired...I just want her to quit keeping the kids late into their lunch break. I also want a written apology from her, and a verbal apology to my son and his classmates. I want reassurance that this will NEVER happen again.

You know, teachers and parents are supposed to set an example. What kind of example is she setting?

Tova7

on Sep 22, 2005

I don't know if the word BULLY garners the almost fanatical attention there as it does here, but if it does, I'd be talking to the super about this teacher BULLYING the kids.

That is exactly what she was doing by her comments after the phone call. She was REALLY saying..."Don't cry to mom and dad about me because I AM IN CHARGE here."

The same thing the fat bully says on the playground before he snatches your lunch money! (Which you won't be needing anyway because they won't give you time to eat.)

Good luck.

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