No apologies.

Published on May 29, 2005 By dharmagrl In Blogging

My blog is like a personal journal to me. It's a place for me to vent, to write about how I'm feeling and why. It's semi-theraputic; I find that writing about things helps me think them through better and be less emotional about them.

So, if people get upset at what I've written about how I'm feeling, should I apologize? Should I remove what offends them and say I'm sorry for feeling that way? Should I have to censor myself and my emotions?

I don't think so. I don't think that I should have to apologize for feeling frustrated with situations and people.

Not only do I not think so, but I'm not going to. If I'm writing about what I feel and think; if I'm taking responsibility for my emotions and not placing the blame for those emotions at someone else's feet....then I don't see that I have anything to apologize for.

If people don't like what I have to say, then they don't have to read what I write. It's really that simple.

But there aren't going to be any apologies.

Comments

Dr Guy

on May 29, 2005

And like you need to?

Nope! It is what I already said. Write what you want, keep the stuff private that you want to. And let others comment on that which you do not mind baring.

I do the same, and yes, I get a kick out of those others that care to share with us! We offer some lame advice, or some insightful stuff, but in the end, this is our journey through life.

And I have never heard anyone need to appologize for a journey!

So neither will we!

dharmagrl

on May 29, 2005

DG: It wasn't really aimed at anyone here. Last year, right before D came back from a year overseas I was pretty stressed about him coming home, us moving house, what we were going to do on leave etc etc, and i blogged about it. Some people I know read it, and they got upset. They have no reason to, I didn't write anything bad about them...but that's the way they're taking it, and I feel like I'm being asked to apologize.

I'm not going to. I have no reason to. If people can't deal with how I feel about stuff, then they can choose to not read me.

Dr Guy

on May 29, 2005

It wasn't really aimed at anyone here.

I did not take it that way, but in any event. My feelings stand. I do appreciate your sharing. And I like to share. Helll, some of my best is just for me. I really dont care if anyone likes it or not.

But I can understand that when they have chips, they are on your shoulder. Unfortunate and true.

you keep writing and I will keep reading. Well most of the time. As I was a MB growing up, I do like your current view of things, even if it is like what happened 30 years ago for me.

lifehappens

on May 29, 2005

I love you and your rants. Don't apologize....we all do it. *Haven't you seen my blogs?*

dharmagrl

on May 29, 2005

I love you and your rants. Don't apologize....we all do it. *Haven't you seen my blogs?*

Hehe...yeah, I have, and I love you and your rants too!

But I can understand that when they have chips, they are on your shoulder. Unfortunate and true.

That's very profound, DG...I'm going to have to remember that one!

LIL RED

on May 30, 2005

dharmagrl
I agree. Writing for me is somewhat of a venting spree. No I do not feel or think you should sensor yourself or your emotions. It is your opinion you are intitled to it. What were you given a voice and fingers for if you couldn't use them to make people know what is wrong or isn't wrong with you. What does matter is how your tone is when the words are carried out. Always that is important. Don't want simple words which is only an opinion of yours to sound like harsh criticizime. Go on with your bad self I say and speak freely your heart mind body and soul.

lilred
A Fairy and Her Warlock
JUST BREATHE.

Texas Wahine

on May 30, 2005

What else should I be
All apologies
What else could I say
Everyone is gay
What else could I write
I don't have the right
What else should I be
All apologies

Thought you'd appreciate that.

dynamaso

on May 30, 2005

It is a pity others don't understand this, Dharma. It would make for less bitchiness on JU, for sure.

Cheers,

Maso

Shovelheat

on May 30, 2005

Right, what Maso said...

dharmagrl

on May 30, 2005

No I do not feel or think you should sensor yourself or your emotions. It is your opinion you are intitled to it.

TY. I didn't say anything that was untrue, and I never blamed anyone else. I didn't say 'you MAKE me feel like this, it's all your fault'...I said that I was hurt and frustrated and that these are the events that led to me feeling like that. I think that problem is that they know they acted inappropriately and don't like having it pointed out to them. But, whatever. I'd like to not let this cloud our future relationship, but I don't think that's going to happen.

Thought you'd appreciate that.

I did! Thank you! I often quote Nirvana...it's nice for someone else to quote it for me!

It is a pity others don't understand this, Dharma. It would make for less bitchiness on JU, for sure.

You know, you're right. It makes me sad that we can't just ignore people who don't like what we have to say...instead we go on and on about it until someone else has to step in and stop the insanity. This article was really about a real life situation, but it can easily be applied to some of the things that go on here too.

Right, what Maso said...

Yeah, that's right!!

island_gurl12

on May 30, 2005

No apologies needed and everyone can understand why.

I guess that's why i havent let people i know in real life into my blog. It's my secret (heh, well not really secret) garden.

Blog on dharma

dharmagrl

on May 31, 2005

I guess that's why i havent let people i know in real life into my blog. It's my secret

I didn't tell them about it, they found it. How, I don't know...but I'd still have said the same things, regardless. My opinion is my opinion, and other people don't have to like it...

Dynosoar

on May 31, 2005

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