Things you take with you...

Published on February 22, 2005 By dharmagrl In Blogging

Despite my ability to mentally compartmentalize, I used to find myself taking things that happen here with me when I got up and walked away from the computer.

Good things, and bad things. Things that made me laugh and smile, and things that made my heart pound and my stomch knot itself up in ire and angst. I used to wake in the middle of the night sometimes with my pulse racing, the event that had caused me such sorrow in the forefront of my mind.

I've had to stop doing that. For my own sanity and health. It was either a question of stopping blogging altofether (which I wasn't sure I could do) or of leaving what happens here, here (which I wasn't sure I could do either but thought stood a better chance of success at than stopping blogging altogether).

So, as of yesterday, I'm going to try and leave things here. I'm going to try and leave the baggage and garbage at the virtual door when I log off and walk away. I dunno how successful I'm going to be, but I have to try.

I have to.

Comments

Gene Nash

on Feb 22, 2005

I'm going to try and leave the baggage and garbage at the virtual door when I log off and walk away.

I wish I had that capability. My brain likes to ruminate. It's like a cow with a good piece of cud.

dharmagrl

on Feb 22, 2005

My brain likes to ruminate. It's like a cow with a good piece of cud

Mine does too, but I can't go on the way I have been; it's affecting everything I do. So, I have to try.

I'll let you know how well this little social experiment goes...

MarcieMoo

on Feb 22, 2005

Karen~

I tend to do the same thing. I think I used to be an internet junkie as a matter of fact. I still like to tinker, but I'd much rather hang out with real people. I'd say that if you have something to write, just come here and write it, because its your blog. Maybe disable comments on the blogs you think might be a little more "controversial" or you think you'd have a hard time dealing with if someone wrote something less than kind. And then you know what? Go hang out with your kids and your husband. Don't worry about anyone else on this silly little website, because all we really are is zeros and ones coming across your screen. Use it for your outlet, and screw everyone else. People just use unkind words because they're too lazy just to walk away or they need to feel better about themselves, and there's lots of those here on JU. Just...screw 'em. It's your blog. You don't have to listen to a word they say. Write what you need to write and get out.

Love ya, toots!

Marce

Shovelheat

on Feb 22, 2005

Practice, practice, practice. It get's easier the more you do it. It's one skill in life that I can say I have most assuredly mastered. I even did a blog on the subject (well... very similar!) which, incidently, got ZERO comments ~smirk~

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dharmagrl

on Feb 22, 2005

People just use unkind words because they're too lazy just to walk away or they need to feel better about themselves, and there's lots of those here on JU. Just...screw 'em.

Yes, there are lots of them. I try to ignore it, Marcie, but I still take part of it with me when I go. This weekend, for example, had me feeling like a pretty worthless person, full of self doubt...and no-one likes to feel like that. That's why I said that I have to start leaving it here...if I don't I'll drive myself crazy.

thanks, btw.....love you too!

dynamaso

on Feb 22, 2005

Hard thing to do and even harder to advise on. I guess everybody who can do this has their own technique. I know I tend to dwell on different conversations, but I really try hard to only dwell on the positive. It works for me. Hopefully you'll find your way too. Have a wonderful day,

Cheers,

Maso

foreverserenity

on Feb 23, 2005

Dharma, one thing I can say for myself, and this is not bragging either, I can walk away with nere a thought. I will miss it when I don't log on, as I've wrote about today, because I like all you guys. And I still find it fun to do. But I do not take it with me. You will drive yourself totally nuts if you do. Thank God for my children who distract the heck out of me. Plus I have so many books to catch up on, phone calls to make.....

Hopefully, you will find your way of dealing with it because it can be all consuming. And for those who poo hoo this and take it lightly because they might feel that you don't have a life, heck, ignore the squabbles I say. You experience things very deeply and you feel a lot emotionally. In that way we're alike. You just have to learn to let go. You'll learn how to, in due time.

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