Real men DO like curves!

Published on November 20, 2004 By dharmagrl In Health & Medicine

I wrote this article recently Link about how I was going to try and gain some weight because I felt I was too skinny.

Of all the men who replied, not-a-one of them said they preferred skinny, scrawny chicks. In fact, most of them said they preferred women who were 'curvy'.

I find this revelation very curious. It makes me happy, but I find it intriguing.

Why, if American men like women who have some shape to them, are we women going to extreme lengths to make ourselves thin? Why are skinny celebrities so popular? Why are women having themselves suctioned and tucked and starved and deprived?

Why is a size 4 more socially desirable then a size 12? Why is an androgynous look more desireable than a 'all boobs and butt' look?

More to the point, why aren't average sized American women doing something about it? Why are we buying into the skinny-minne hype that we're being fed by homosexual Hollywood stylists? Why aren't we standing up for ourselves, for our bodies, and saying no, we don't want to look like anorexics, we're happy with our healthy weights so shove your cosmo ads and your size 2's up your ass?

Yet another thing to add to the list of 'things I don't understand'.....

Comments (Page 2)

alison watkins

on Nov 21, 2004

This is an awesome article, Dharma!

As hard as this is to admit, I have fallen victim to the media before. three years ago when I met my fiance, I was happy, in love, and eating a ton. I went from 130 to 156 lbs. Soon after that big weigh in, I read about the atkins diet and decided to try that. The weight rolled off. I counted every freakin carb that went into my mouth. I became sickly OBSESSED with the idea of losing weight. After 9 months of the atkins diet I went from 156 all the way down to 115. I was very happy with my weight at the time, but I noticed that I was really light headed and woozy most of the time. I saw a doctor and was diagnosed with hypoglocemia. He told me to stop doing the atkins diet. Of course the weight started to come back on and this summer I got back up to 137. After that it dawned on me to just be happy, live life, eat healthy, and exercise. I currently back down to 122 and am now totally happy with my body image.

Heroin chic is so un sexy. don't men want something to hold onto?!

island_gurl12

on Nov 25, 2004

I cant really relate with your article since i'm naturally small

But i understand what you mean. I have friends who are constantly on diet trying to look like top models or whatever. They 're not happy with how their body look whereas i would want some of that flesh on my bones! I think its genetically programmed in women's brains to never be happy with what they've got, lol. Luckily i'm not obsessed with body image.

Girls always tell me that i'm lucky to have such a petite figure. But sometimes it's true i'd like to have bigger breasts, heh. Not a bigger butt, i'm quite happy with the rear i have

But then i think aaah it's fine, if i had bigger breasts i'd look like a freak.

TasT

on Nov 27, 2004

I think its genetically programmed in women's brains to never be happy with what they've got, lol.

Ain't that the truth!

LadyCleve

on Nov 27, 2004

I have played the weight game since I was a kid. I've always weighed more than I looked, as I seem to carry it well, and have quite a bit of muscle (it's just under alot of padding!). Actually, a few months ago I went to a nutrition class at the post hospital, and they did my BMI, and the amount of muscle alone is more than my "ideal" weight. No, I won't tell you what the ratio was. But, my last year of high school and my freshman year in college, I weighed anywhere between 150 and 160 (I'm 5'2 1/2" tall), and I was happy. It was mostly muscle because I walked and rode an exercise bike alot. My husband tells me that when we met, I could have lost a little weight, but I looked good! He's not the only one that thought so, either.

And men do like larger women. Although now it's at least as weird as it is flattering.............

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