I used to try and practice mindfulness all the time....I would feel an emotion, a sensation, and try to recognize why I was feeling that way.  It was very helpful.  I found that I got a good handle on jealousy that way......it made communicationg with my husband much easier if I could say "look, I feel like this because _____ and I'm trying to deal with feeling this way, so just bear with me".  There was a lot less tension, and a lot less arguing...always a good thing.

That comes with practice and with time.  First, you have to self-analyze and see what you're feeling.  Then, you figure out why you're feeling those things.  That's all you have to do.  In fact, if you can indentify what you're feeling and can say "I'm scared/jealous/sad...." you're already communicating. 

I'll give you an example....I was very quiet all the way across South Dakota, and Dave didn't understand why.  I was sad, and I told him so and asked him to give me a bit to sort myself out..then internalized and tried to figure out why I was sad.  It was because we were leaving - yes, I wanted to go, but I had so many memories up there that it almost felt like I was leaving myself behind.  Once I had come to an understanding of what i was feeling and why, I felt much better.

That's all mindfulness is, really...being aware.  Period.

P:  good for you!

Shovel: It's confusing, isn't it?  Being lost, knowing that you had a path but being unable to find it?  You know, I'd quite like to talk to you away from here.....if you're interested, my email is dharmagirl69@yahoo.com .  Don't feel bad if you don't want to....