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Published on July 27, 2004 By dharmagrl In Misc

I'm going to try and start writing letters again.

Not e-letters, proper old-fashioned pen, paper and snail mail letters.

I used to have a couple of pen pals when I was a teenager.  One was British, the other German.  I remember spending my allowance on nice notepaper and envelopes, sitting outside with my pen and paper and actually using them to write letters to my pals.  I remember too the anticipation of recieving a response..looking for the mail every morning to see if there was anything for me in it, and if there was relishing reading all the details held within it.

Even up until a few years ago I used to write letters.  When my husband would deploy off to god-knows-where, before we had a computer, we used to write each other almost daily.  Phone calls were limited, so letter writing became our primary method of communication.  Again there was that anticipation when approaching the mail box and peering inside to see if my love had written to me.  I think that the mail man really came to abhor coming to my house towards the end of those deployments, especially if he was empty handed.  I'd lay in wait inside the screen door and literally accost him when he came up the front steps.

Then, a few years ago, we got a computer, and e-mail took over.  In the last 5 years I can count on the fingers of two hands the number of hand-written letters and cards I've got from my husband when he's overseas.  Even my parents and friends don't write much anymore.  We send and recieve cards on birthdays and holidays, but we don't use that as our main means of communication anymore.  The mailman has been lulled into a sense of security and is no longer afraid.

I'd like to change that.  I'd like to start writing to people.  I'd like you to join in.  I have a couple of addresses already, but I'd like to collect some more.  If you'd like to start exchanging thoughts and ideas the good old fashioned way, let me know.  My email address is on my blog page....and isn't that ironic!  I'm asking people to email me their addresses so that we can write to each other!

So, anyone interested?

 


Comments
on Jul 27, 2004
I'm not sure I can write anymore.
on Jul 27, 2004

I'm not sure I can write anymore

I hand wrote someone a letter earlier...and at first glance it look as if a drunken spider had crawled across the page.  My handwriting was never very neat, but years of little to no use has caused it to become almost unreadable.  My keyboard skills have improved and I can type 70+ wpm...but my handwriting has suffered.

That'll improve with use though.  Just another reason to handwrite letters.

on Jul 27, 2004
OOOOH! I adore writing hand-written letters. I'm a huge fan (and student) of Abigail Adams. She and her husband wrote many letters to each other. An amazing amount! He wrote seventy some odd letters to Jefferson in their twilight years -- almost two for each of his.

One of the joys that comes with hand-written letters is stationery. I get plain giddy when it comes to finding beautiful stationery. I send hand-written letters to my best friend in Austin, to people I see all the time, to our former exchange students in Europe...

I spent four years (high school) with a pen pal thirty miles away -- a letter a week was the rate we wrote each other. He and I both would receive one a week.

There's something about the form of each alphabetical letter in a person's hand. Creamy ecru envelopes... addresses in careful calligraphy.

What I cannot overcome is the problem of recording the letters I send in a book. It's something I've decided to do, but cannot actually do. I want to mail the letter right away! I've not gotten very far, but the idea would be so helpful. Abigail did it! It was a must back then to know what you said in the day of snail snail-mail.

Good luck with your endeavor! Kudos on the decision, I hope to hear more. Maybe I"ll send you some lovely stationery. I mailed some to my friend in Austin as a gift just this week...

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on Jul 27, 2004

One of the joys that comes with hand-written letters is stationery. I get plain giddy when it comes to finding beautiful stationery

Me too!  I used to write on the tissue paper thin air-mail stuff when I wrote to Steffi, my German pen-pal. 

My husband always said that he could tell what kind of mood I was in when i wrote to him by the stationary I used.  Pastel colors meant everything was cool, and red or purple meant he probably should wait until he was alone in his tent before he opened it!

I kept all the letters he wrote me in a box.  I used to go over them time and again, re-reading his words, finding comfort in them.  The box got lost in our last house move....and I'm unlikely to get any more letters anytime soon!

I'll keep you posted on the letter writing, Shulamite.

on Jul 27, 2004
Ohh I like that! I would love a pen pal... I will email u my address!
on Jul 27, 2004

! I would love a pen pal... I will email u my address!

Excellent!  I'll keep an eye out for it....one more person to write to!

on Jul 27, 2004
Me too! I love getting any personal mail. It's like Christmas.
on Jul 27, 2004
Hey when I clicked on your email it just took me to the yahoo home page. My email is hubbamy@hotmail.com so email me your address and I will mail you a letter.
on Jul 27, 2004
I'm so hopeless at letter writing - it's not even the writing part - it's the sending - I'm hopeless with stamps and envelopes - I can write pages and pages and pages of a letter but never send it. I've had and lost about 10 penpals in my life time for lack of response - the letters are written they just get filed away oh I must get a stamp for that - and it never happens -- which is why I love email because I just press send and its gone instantly
I used to write to my friends - I used to write 25pages and then GIVE it to the person when I next saw them - these would be the people I only saw on random weekends - I'd just use my letter to them in much the same way I use my blog - to say random thoughts and stuff and then they'd write back - but even that was 7years ago now.
I'm the worst pen-pal ever!
on Jul 28, 2004

OK Loca...I'll check it out. I'd love to write back and forth with you!  I liked the Christmas analogy too...that's really how it feels, especially with international mail or mail from my husband!

Trina.....well, I'll write to you, but I just won't expect a response!! 

 

on Jul 28, 2004
I can understand the feeling of "real mail" vrs. email. I treasure the letters I recieved from my husband when I was deployed. Many of them are in page protectors, hidden away for the day I really need to hear his voice..... Being able to hold it in your had and see the neat, precise, all caps handwriting made everything all right for just a little while.
I didn't recieve even one letter when he was in Korea last year and I don't really expect any while he is in Iraq. Email is the fast way to comunicate...but it's not as personal.

Who knows, if I write to you, I might as well write to him too. Maybe it will kickstart my motivation for handwriting letters.


on Jul 28, 2004

I didn't recieve even one letter when he was in Korea last year

The only piece of snail mail I got from my husband since he's been gone was a card for my birthday.  I get up to 5 emails a day, but like you said, it's not as personal as a handwritten letter.  You can't spray an email with your perfume or put a big lipsticky kiss on the bottom of the page like you can with pen and paper letters (childish yes, but you do stuff like that when you're separated for long periods of time!).

 

 

on Aug 02, 2004
Just checking in after a brief "JU vacation," and wanted to let you know that my addy will be on it's way to you in a few minutes.

DH and I used to write letters to each other all the time when we lived 1800 miles apart, even though we were talking online for hours every day, and emailing. The handwritten letters are just so much more personal and special...and we both have saved every last one of them!