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Published on June 27, 2004 By dharmagrl In Blogging

The more I read about welfare, the left, the right, the politics, the war.....the madder I get.  I had said a couple of weeks ago that Dharma-The-Blunt was going to make her appearance more and more often, and she's been doing so.  Not in a mean way, I've jusy been asking questions about things that I think are relevant...but my comments have been deemed "petty" and have been deleted.

So, seeing as I have my own blog in which to air my opinions, that is exactly what I intend to do.  Be warned, some people might find the following statements offensive.  I don't care.  I'm done treading lightly around certain topics.

So, let's start with disability.  I'm all for people who really do have medical problems, and who cannot support themselves being given a helping hand.  Notice I said a helping hand, not a hand-out.  I see people who have horrible conditions that make each and every day of their lives excruciatingly painful working full time and supporting themselves.  I see people who have conditions that are fatal pressing on and refusing to let themselves be defined by the disease and illnesses they have.  I see and know people who are missing limbs, who have a diminished mental capacity, who are confined to wheelchairs, all working full time or part time, all taking care of (or making a concerted effort to take care of) themselves. Yes, some of them are on supplimental disability, but they're at least making an effort to look after themselves.  

I also see people who are content to be on disability for the rest of their lives, who have absolutely no intention of going back to work and trying to support themselves. 

Next, let's talk about welfare.  I've written about this before, but this still makes me mad...there are people who are perfectly content to keep churning out kids in order to receive a mothly payment for that child.  There are people who will play the system and who will make sure they have a child under that age of 3 living at home with them so they don't have to go to work to 'earn' their TANF. There are people who will keep on having kids so that even when the TANF runs out they still get a stipend for all the kids living in their household. There are people who will use their Food Stamp cards to purchase name brand items, who are eating steak twice a week, when me and my family are eating tuna helper and ramen noodles and drinking store brand sodas.  Not because we have to, not because we're trying to make ends meet, but because we're being frugal with OUR OWN MONEY.  OUR MONEY, that my husband serves his country to earn. OUR MONEY, that we're trying to save so that we can one day be self sufficient.  I've had sarcastic comments thrown at me (like "oh, how noble of you") when I blogged about trying to shop frugally to see just how much it costs to feed a family of 4 a week....why?  Because I'm trying to show that it can be done? That people who are on Food Stamps get to spend more on food than those of us who earn our own money?

I have been accused in the past of 'riding the gravy train' myself because I don't work, because I choose to stay at home and raise our children.  Let me explain something to you:  I'm not taking a government handout.  I work for my husband's paycheck as well.  I may not be the one who puts on the uniform, who deploys to foreign lands, but my children and I make just as many sacrifices as he does. What do you think, that stay-at-home mom's sit on their asses watching soap operas and eating bon-bons all day?  Wrong.  I'm lucky, because we can afford for me to stay home and raise our kids.  How do we afford it?  By living at, if not slightly below our means.  If it was a choice between my having to go back to work to make ends meet or taking welfare.....well, there wouldn't be a choice. I'd go back to work.  I have injuries that would qualify me for disability - I'll be specific, I don't care who knows - I have a herniated L2 disc and arthritis in both L1 and L2 vertebrae, which makes it painful for me to sit and stand for extended periods of time, limits the amount of weight I can lift and carry, causes me to have weakness in my left leg, gives me sometimes excruciating pain because of the neurological damage that's been done.  My neurologist has advised me many times in the past that I would qualify for at least partial if not full disability if I cared to apply for it.  I don't care to.  I'm still capable of working, so I will.  I'm trying to better myself, and I'm doing so with OUR money.  No grants or loans, with OUR money.

Now on to the war......I'm mad.  Scratch that, I'm furious.  That some people can come out and say that the people who were beheaded deserved what they got for being there in the first place....I find that absolutely disgusting.  That has to be the lowest, most reprehensible thing I have ever heard.  Here's what I really think about Al Queda: they're a bunch of barbaric assholes who deserve to be anhilated.  There is no 'religion of peace' behind what they do, it's a religion of blood and torture and violence.  They will not be satisfied (and they already stated this) until the western world is kneeling in prayer to Allah.  Not me, brother.  I won't be wearing a burkah.  I'm not going to be dictated to like that.  I'd rather be dead than adhere to that particular brand of Islam.

There was going to be more that I was going to rant about, but I've run out of steam for now.  Like I said, there are going to be some folks who don't like what I had to say.  I don't care.  Oh, and just so you know, I'm not afraid to use the blacklist feature either.  I welcome logical, sensible, debate, but you make it personal or come out with some unsubstantiated bullshit that you can't back up with unbiased stats....consider yourself blacklisted.


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on Jun 27, 2004

Just in case anyone wants some verification, here's the link to the SSI physician's guide to mental disabilities...which, btw, covers mental disorders caused by substance abuse.  This is dated, as you'll see from the top of the linked page, Jan 2003, so it obviously supercedes the Welfare Reform Act of 1996.


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on Jun 27, 2004
you know one of the books I mentioned in that other blog was called Henry's Daughter by Joy Dettman - since it's Australian I don't know how readily available it will be to you but....
it was really interesting - like I said she's the only daughter with I think it's 12 brothers - her mother is on disability because she's fat - the father kills himself and the kids decide to take matters into their own hands...
It's actually really good - if not a bit strange and far fetched at times

But it basically speaks about alot of the above issues with welfare and disabilty from an 11-15yo girls pov.
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on Jun 27, 2004
on Jun 27, 2004
I'm opinionated as well, but up until now have been afraid of stepping on people's toes and offending them


Hahaha... entering the field of comedy on JU eh? you have been making your thoughts known an trodding on people's toes since I have been here Dharma... dont be afraid to do it! It keeps people on their toes! makes them think

I pretty much agree with everything you say as well... Except that Al Quada should be anhialated... they should be defeated, but as far as I am concerned, the war on Terrorism is just a war against thugocracies... which exist in the USA as well... albeit behind the mask of civilised society...

word.

BAM!!!
on Jun 27, 2004
1. I think it's great that a woman wants to stay at home and actually raise her children. There's not a thing in the world wrong with that. Good idea imho.

2. DIsability: I've been told by more than one doctor that I shouldn't work, but should file for disability. I work anyway. I would rather earn my money and pay my own way thank you very much. But, I know people who have needed to be on disability that had a tough time getting it. The system is set up to make it impossible to get it without having to hire a lawyer and giving a portion of the much needed money to that leech, My mother who is seriously disabled, unable to even leave the house most days, and fighting various cancers in different parts of her body, was denied disablity when she filed. Of course, after shelling out money for a leech, I mean lawyer, she got the disability no prolem. It took her over a year to finally get it, and during that time she wasn't able to work at all. It's a pretty screwed up system all the way around.

3. Welfare. Get a job.

4. The war. It's happened, is happening, get over it people. The President did what he thought was right. I'm pretty sick of all the politics over this. Seems funny to me that the ones who seem to think they know so much about the proper use of military resources and when they should be used have never worn the uniform. But of course they know ALL the facts because CNN told them. Right?

Good article Dharma.
on Jun 27, 2004

It's a pretty screwed up system all the way around

You were one of the people I was going to use as an example, Mason, of how people who deserve and qualify for disability refuse to take it.  I have the feeling that as long as you have the physical ability to get out of bed and breathe, you'll be working.  You're right about it being screwed up...too many people have abused and tried to manipulate the system for so long that, as usual, the people who really need and deserve the help are those who have the hardest time getting it. 

The war...was necessary.  Is necessary.  And I'm still mad about it.  If I were young enough (and I'm not, not now) I'd have enlisted and volunteered to have gone to Iraq.  The time for pussy-footing around has come and gone.  It's time to play them at their own game.

on Jun 28, 2004
Well, dharma-the blunt...here's one blogger who wouldn't mind seeing this side of you come out to play every day.
on Jun 28, 2004
Cool!  I like being blunt.  I'm having a thoroughly good time with it!  Thanks, Gideon!  That's an awesome name, btw!
on Jun 28, 2004
Mmm.... that was TASTY! Blunt rules the roost:)
on Jun 28, 2004
I like this side of you Dharma. I like it a lot!

Emma
on Jun 28, 2004
Wordy mcword, Dharma.

Re: about the staying-at-home mom issue. Today's society condemns full-time mothers as well as stay-at-home mothers as well. It's like women are expected to do it all and smile their way through. Kids are work: you have to raise them, teach them good values, keep on eye on them so they don't get hurt, etc. It's a big, important job.

on Jun 28, 2004

Thank you very much, Greywar, that means a lot coming from you.  It's hard to explain...what I was writing before was my opinion, and was truthful....but I was being or trying to be diplomatic more than I was being myself.  I think those days have come to an end.

Oh, and my name is Karen.  Seeing as I'm starting a new era of bluntness, let's start by using my given name.  Not as exotic as Dharma, but that's ok.  At least I'm not pretending to be something I'm not.

Thanks, Dusk.  I didn't have kids to let the day care provider and the school system raise them.  I'm raising them, and I'm not a perfect parent but I do the best I can with what I have....actually, Dave and I do the best we can with what we have.

 

on Jun 28, 2004
Dharma or Karen
WOW.... I agree wth almost every thing you said, and it got me going.... I started to post but then it got so long I ended up writing an article... so if you care to read it its called Life in my body.

You rock, insightful points aplenty for you!
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