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Published on December 5, 2007 By dharmagrl In Misc

Dear Bitches,

I want you to know that I'm forever going to remember what you did today.  For-fucking-ever.  Your lack of humanity, your total and utter lack of care and concern for the person you loosely call your 'patient' will forever be my Gold Standard - of how NOT to behave, of how NOT to treat another human being. 

I want you to know how close I came to punching one of you in your gold-toothed-gum-snapping-mouth when you stripped that little old lady of all of her clothing, bedding and dignity.  I felt my hand balling up into a fist when you ripped her gown off, and it was all I could do to NOT hit you but instead say 'hey!  It's cold in here!' and cover her back up with the single bed sheet you had NOT thrown on the floor.  

You looked down your nose at me today because I am still a student and you are  CNA's - actually, that's not right.  You hold the certification of CNA, but there is NO nurse in either of you whatsoever.  NONE.  No nurse I know of would treat ANY patient so heartlessly and so callously.  Everything we were told NOT to do in class, you did, and you did it with immense disdain.  You couldn't even be bothered to call that lady by her own name; you called her by her condition.  Matter of fact, you called every person on that word by their condition, and in doing so you dehumanized them.  You made them a NON-person.  Look down your nose at me whilst you still can bitches, because you aren't going to have long to do it.  I'm going to out-rank you one day soon, and when I do you can bet that gold fucking tooth of yours that I will NOT let any CNA working with me treat ANY patient the way you treated yours today.

You have NO place working with the elderly or the sick.  You have NO place working with people who are dependent on you to provide them with care, because you DON'T care.  You just don't.  You should take your happy asses off that ward, out of that hospital and right back to the drive thru lane at whatever sub-standard fast food joint it was that you were working at before you decided that you were going to get yo'selves a ejj-um-a-kay-shum.  Go do nails, or hair, or someother NON-patient related mundane minimum wage job, because you've got NO fucking business in the healthcare field.  NONE.  Those 'hips' or 'gallbladders' or 'in-feck-shuns' that you talk about - those are PEOPLE, bitches.  PEOPLE.  Human beings.  Human beings with thoughts and feelings.  Feelings that can get hurt as much as their bodies when you toss them around like they're rag fucking dolls and don't talk directly TO them, just ABOUT them.  They can still HEAR, you know.  They're not totally devoid of sense.

Unlike you two.  You have so sense whatsoever.  You also wouldn't know what compassion was even if you could spell it, and empathy is waaaaay out of your league.  I hope that one day one of those 'hips' family members see how you treat them and either gets you fired or files suit against you - or even better, both.  No, now that's not very nice of me, and I won't wish harm against you.  I will warn you of this, though: one day, someone you love - or even YOU - may be a 'hip' or a 'gallbladder' or a 'knee', and there is such a thing as Karma.  Make no mistake about it, the way you treat people is going to come full circle on you.  Full fucking circle.

It won't, however, be at my hands.  I won't do that to you; I won't treat you the way I saw you treat people today.  I can't, it's impossible for me to do so and still sleep at night. I have too much class and, unlike you, I have a nurse's heart.  

That's something you'll never have, no matter how hard you try.

 


Comments
on Dec 05, 2007
there is such a thing as Karma


And as much as I love her, she can out-bitch the bitchiest bitches.

it's impossible for me to do so and still sleep at night. I have too much class and, unlike you, I have a nurse's heart.


It is unfortunate to know these nurses are at the beginning of their careers and they've got years of this kind of abuse ahead of them (abuse is a strong word I know but by the sound of it, the correct one too). I just hope that if I ever need this kind of care in my old age, I have someone as dedicated and compassionate as you, Dharma. I can't imagine spending my last days known as 'bung gall-bladder' or 'osteoarthritic'. Talk about hell-on-Earth...
on Dec 05, 2007

It is unfortunate to know these nurses are at the beginning of their careers and they've got years of this kind of abuse ahead of them (abuse is a strong word I know but by the sound of it, the correct one too

Oh, it absolutely is abuse.  If I were to find someone treating my mum like that then abuse is EXACTLY what I'd be calling it.

Thank you for your confidence in me, Maso.  I hope that I can live up to it.

on Dec 05, 2007
If I were to find someone treating my mum like that then abuse is EXACTLY what I'd be calling it.


Is there any way you could report them or would that be snitching on the bitches and then your training would be hell?

They will get pay back alright, tenfold!
on Dec 05, 2007
One of the first, most heart wrenching things we learn about many in the so-called "nursing" field is that a lot of the people working in it would be working fast food, but are just too lazy for it.
on Dec 05, 2007
I'd rain hell on them with my own hands. What you described is utterly fucking horrible and I don't think I would've restrained myself. I understand trying to detach yourself, but treating people like objects...I couldn't fathom how someone could do that and feel comfortable in their own skin. Disgusting.

~Zoo
on Dec 05, 2007
I hope that I can live up to it.


You already are...
on Oct 27, 2008

WOW!!!! I to am a CNA have been for years. Thank you for that I deal with those types all the time!! I feel so bad about the abuse (porpusful or not) that many days I go home and ball like a girl!!! But it is dificult to stop because many times I end up making a stand and alienating coworkers or the nurseing staff and end up with no help and then MY clients end up suffering to !!   It is very difficult and emotionally tasking work and when i see someone snapp i try to help them deal before they abuse. but i still see someone restrainan alzhimers patint untill they are terrified and screaming rather than reminding her ever bite or two whats going on.(HOW DIFFICUT IS THAT). Or I see the little ladie that calls me you fucker,you fucker,youfucker, when i get her up for meals or into a chair to do some rolling, get slapped by those same ones instead of just agreeing and saing I know elma your right i sure am and smile a lagh. ebvryone gets overworked and put on because of to many opatient not enough staff but no excuse what if it was you or your mother???? Anyway it was nice to fell like i was not the lone ranger for once  Most staff are good people they just get stressed and snap. all we can do is be aware and have 0 tollerance but understanding and support Even worse than that is the entire lack of family visits or even care Of all my patients only one little mexican lady's Family made weekly visits!!!(ya for latino family valuess)All the rest have 0 visits untill they pass  or on verge then the basterds shoe up and tell the little sweet lady i've cared for and loved GO AHEAD AND DIE MOM ITS OK!!!! so very close to beating that man to death that i had to leave the floor till he left ( no visits when living but tells to die when they become deathly ill) FOR SHAME !!!!!! ANYONE with framily in long term care get off your uncocearned asses and visit them, BY GOD if you would be there 2 times weekly you could be shoure that they would be greatfull... IT's you  responsibility to those that once cared for you.They are not just a pain in the ass They are your sister, mother, brother ,father,friend They deserve so much more!!!   (sorry got a little carried away and a litte wordy)

on Nov 04, 2008

Beautifully said, dharmagrl. I witnessed something similar once, when my own mother was in a nursing facility and being cared for by hospice. My mother had only been there overnight when two of those gold toothed, gum snapping, ghetto fabulous CNA's came into the room to change my mother's bedding. One of them said that I needed to leave the room so they could change the bed. She turned and very roughly started to pull my mother up by her arm. I yelled at her to stop as she was going to hurt my mother. She said, "I know how to handle patients and you have to leave the room so we can get her bed changed". Of course I refused and this made her quite angry. She thought that she would intimidate me by placing a hand on her hip and rolling her head as she told me that I HAD to leave. I told them both not to put a finger on my mother and to leave the room. They then turned to each other and began to say things like "I don't know who this bitch thinks she is" etc. etc etc. My mother, who was in her last days of life, was becoming visably upset. I approached my mother's side and again told them to leave the room but they only stood in the doorway talking loudly to draw the attention of the other CNA's. Within a minute or so there were 5 of them just outside the door. Apparently none of them had been told that the patient in room 201 (my mother) was the aunt of the Director of the facility. I picked up the phone, dialed straight to her office and quickly explained to my cousin what was happening. She responded to the room immediately of course. It would be the last time I would smile for awhile but I got to watch as my cousin fired both of those bitches on the spot for being abusive and unprofessional. I only wish that it could happen to all of them.

on Nov 04, 2008

Good karma is good karma is good karma. A light touch, a warm word, a hug, all good; but then, sometimes a stern, clear and direct  word, a warning, or a report is also good karma.

 

A bow to you, Nurse.

on Jul 02, 2009

You are obligated to report the incident.

on Jul 07, 2009

FOR. FUCKING. EVER.

Edit: But seriously I hope you're reporting this soon.