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And eternally thankful for it!
Published on May 28, 2004 By dharmagrl In Personal Relationships

I, on a whim, went and perused Yahoo Personals earlier this evening (I was bored).

It was good for me.  Scrolling through page after page of self-selling biopsies, people trying to condense their entire persona into a single paragraph.... seeing hoplessly hopeful faces staring out at me, reading about how everyone's looking for that one special person, 'the one'......it bought home to me just how fortunate I am.

I have found my 'one'.  I have made, am making and will continue to make a life with my 'one'. 

He's amazing. He's wonderful.  He's awesome.

He's also an ass.  A jerk.  A prick, even. 

But that's what makes 'us' so good.  We're real.  We have shared the best of times, and we have shared the worst of times, and we're still in love.  We've had the wine and roses moments...and we've also had yelling and slamming doors moments.

We've built character as a couple.  We've grown together....to be honest, I don't really think of myself as a seperate entity from him anymore, and I'm pretty sure he'll say the same.  We function well enough apart, but we're capable of so much more together. 

I won't say he completes me; I was complete before I met him, but he is the perfect compliment to me. We're like two pieces of a jigsaw puzzle: each piece is whole in and of itself, but they make so much more sense when you put them together.

So, I'm lucky.  Despite all the trials and tribulations, despite all the separations and distances that have been put between us over the years..we are in love with each other, still. 

And always.

I love you, Lonesome Traveler. 

Soon.


Comments
on May 28, 2004
Reading your articles about you and your husband always make me tear up. It makes me wonder if someday I can ever have a love like this... sometimes I think I'll never love. *sigh* I bet you miss him... did he ever send you that shirt? I know what smell can do. I think it's my strongest sense in the department of memory.

~Sarah
on May 28, 2004

No, he never did, that little stinker!  I keep reminding him about it, and he convieniently changes the subject. I do miss him...the closer he gets to coming home, the worse it seems to be.

Sarah, you will love.  Trust me.  I have faith that you will.

Tell me how you came to Christianity..and I promise I won't think that you're preaching!

on May 29, 2004
dharmagrl, You write beautifully. I am late coming to this idea of blogging but when I find the time, it is one great way to enrich one's own views of life. keep it coming.
on May 29, 2004

Why thank you, oleteach!

Having read your work I take that as a huge compliment!

Blog on, sister!

Oh, and your kid's a pretty darn good writer as well.....you raised him well.

on May 29, 2004
Dharmagrl,
I read your blog when I arrived home from the pub last night and was going to respond then, but had that sudden moment of clarity when you actually realise that you are probably not in the best state to be communicating with anyone - let alone having to negotiate the intricacies of typing!
Now that I have slept and recovered from the night before, I find that I have the same reaction to your beautiful piece. It is so great to see someone who realises that what makes a relationship good is the reality of it. Anyone can buy you flowers or take you out to dinner, but only someone very special can make you smile by simply bringing you a cup of tea when you haven't asked, or make you furious from a similarly small, yet poignant act. I think my Mum put it best when she told me 'No, I've never thought of divorce. Murder however...'
You lucky girl. Where is he? And how long has he been gone?
Suz
on May 29, 2004

Haha! Suz, you're awesome!

He's in Greenland.  He's been there since August last year.  He came home for 3 weeks leave in January, then had to go back.  He should be home in August...10 weeks or so to go now.  We were going to go to England for 4 years, but the AF in all it's wisdom has decided that's not to be.  We don't know where we'll be going next, but as long as he's here and we go together I really don't care.

I'm glad that you understand....I especially liked the sentiment about someone making having the ability to make you furious by doing something small and relatively insignificant.

I totally understand you mum's consideration of murder....!

on May 30, 2004
Dharma...I'm trying to catch up with some of my favorite folks after taking a few days away from JU for "real life"....and I loved this article. With my anniversary coming up tomorrow, I have a feeling there will be something similar over on my site later today, as well as one about my son's high school graduation, which was Friday.
on May 30, 2004

With my anniversary coming up tomorrow

Happy AnniversaryI How many years now?

I'll be looking for that article....it warms my heart to see and hear of so many couples who are celebrating successful marriages. 

Yay for your kid!  He's done with high school...now onto college!

on May 30, 2004
Happy AnniversaryI How many years now?I'll be looking for that article....it warms my heart to see and hear of so many couples who are celebrating successful marriages. Yay for your kid! He's done with high school...now onto college!


Just one year for us...we're still newlyweds....but then again, I think we'll ALWAYS be newlyweds in the way we act with each other, you know?

And it looks like it may be tomorrow before I get the article posted. This has been a hectic day, and I want to take my time and make sure it says everything I want it to say.

Thanks for "yay" for the kid....I'll pass it on to him!
on May 30, 2004

I think we'll ALWAYS be newlyweds in the way we act with each other, you know?

Yes.  I think that Lonesome and I will be the same way....shoot, we are the same way!  It's been 10 years and he still manages to make my stomach flip with some of the things he says and does....and on the reverse side of that he still manages to make me madder than a wet hen at times! 

 

on Jun 01, 2004
I love you too.....