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Published on May 21, 2004 By dharmagrl In Misc

We got denied again.

We can't go to England.  We don't know where we're going now.  We don't know if Dave's going to get extended in Greenland...we just don't know much about anything, except that we're not going to England.

I don't know what to say, what to think, what to feel.  I don't know how to react.  The rug just got pulled out from under me and everything is all upside down and turned around now.

 


Comments
on May 21, 2004
dharma- I'm so sorry. I wish there was something I could do to make it all better...will a cyber hug help?
on May 21, 2004
Hugs to all of you...that really bites!!
on May 21, 2004
Crap. That is disappointing news. I don't know what to say, but want to let you know that I am here for you. You and your family are in my thoughts. Nic.
on May 21, 2004

TY, both of you.

We're in the process of finding another assignment.  We have been reassured that Dave won't get extended in Greenland, but I'll believe that when I see it.  We were assured at one point that we were going to England, and look where that ended up...

I don't care where we go, I just want my husband to come home and for us to go there together.

on May 21, 2004

Ok, now I had a good cry and got it out of my system I feel better.

I'm trying to look on the bright side of things.....Dave and I are scouring the map, looking for bases that are relatively close to his hometown.  We figure if we can't be close to my family, we should try to get closer to his.  So far we have 5 choices, ranging in location from Ohio, all the way down to to Alabama and Mississippi....even Louisiana is being considered.  2 separate individuals have indepedently assured us that he WILL NOT get extended at Thule, and that we will have an alternate assignment within a few weeks. So, things could be better, but they could also be a hell of a lot worse. 

This is but a bump in the road; the journey is still ongoing.

on May 21, 2004

Sorry you didn't get what you were looking for Dharma. I still envy that you actually have any say at all in your assignment in the Air force. The Army would kill for that.

on May 21, 2004

Thanks, Grey.

The way it works now is that they officially cancel our assignment to the UK, then look at the list we gave them of places we want to go.  If any are available, then we get an assignment there. If none are available, then they look to see where IS available, and send us there...so it's not like we pick and choose where we want to go.  Having said that, however, because Dave's coming off a remote assignment we'll get more of a say than the average enlisted person looking for orders would.

It's all very confusing and time comsuming..the AF is a law unto itself most of the time, as I'm sure the Army is.

on May 21, 2004
I can't imagine being at the mercy of another when it comes to the simple fact of where you are going to be living. I really can't.
on May 21, 2004

Well, Miki, I have to.  I made the choice to marry into the military, so I have to accept all the shit that comes along with it.  It's really not that bad; the AF ships all of our stuff, gives us extra money to move with, provides us with housing, and it's not like we have to look for work or anything when we get there.  I know we'll be ok wherever we go, I'd just like to know the geographic location of where it is we're going!

The AF is notoriously slow at these things too, so I have probably a good 3 weeks to stress about it yet.

on May 21, 2004
It's neat how you say you married into the military rather than saying you married a man who happens to be in the military. It's a tight fraternity isn't it? Kind of an esprit de corps?
on May 21, 2004

I say that because the military IS our life.  We live it 24/7.  It's not an occupation for Dave, it's his life.  We live on a AF base, in military housing, we shop at military facilities, we see military doctors when we're sick...it's an all-encompassing thing.  Like now, for example:  if it were up to us, we'd be going to England.  But, it's not.  The AF holds the reins.  We just do the running.  We might think that we're running free, but really we're not. 

 So yeah, it is a tight fraternity....to the more dedicated of us, the hard-core 'lifers' as we call them.  I'm married to a 'lifer', and a pretty gung-ho lifer at that.

on May 21, 2004
far we have 5 choices, ranging in location from Ohio,


Oh...if you come to Ohio, would you be at Wright-Patt? I ask because we live in the same town where it's located!
on May 21, 2004

Yes, we would!!!!!

Wow!  That would be quite something, wouldn't it? 

It would be cool to know someone in the local area.....man, now I'm hoping we go to Ohio!

on May 21, 2004
your hubby could come to Canada and join our air force here. In fact, if he brings his own jet it will nearly double our fleet.
on May 21, 2004

Errmm...he's not a pilot Miki, he's a cop.  If he were an officer instead of enlisted I"m pretty sure this fiasco wouldn;t have happened in the first place.