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Published on May 14, 2004 By dharmagrl In Misc

It looks like we might not be going to England this fall.  The receiving base has denied our application for overseas medical clearance...why, we don't know, they just have.  It's a small base, with only a rudimentary medical facility, which probably has a lot to do with it.  Anway, the application is being sent to Headquarters, and they have the final say.  If they approve it, we're going to England.  If they deny it, we don't know where we're going.  We might get lucky and go to Europe still, or we might get stuck somewhere in the US again.  Dave might even get extended in Greenland until we can get all this worked out...and I honestly don't know if I can handle that.  I've been pinning all my hopes on his return in August, telling myself that all I have to do is make it until then ...and now I might have to make it even longer.

We won't find out until next week, so I have at least 5 days in which to stress myself into oblivion worrying about it. In the meantime I will be spending a lot of time asking the universe to help me..help me accept whatever happens, help me be ready for the worst case scenario...

...I just want my husband back, and then I want to go home. That's all.


Comments
on May 14, 2004

dharma- I'm sorry that this kink has been put into your plans, but hopefully Headquarters will make the right decision.  I know how much you wanted to go to England, and especially how much you want to have Dave home.  I'll keep my fingers crossed for you...There's no way that can extend Dave in Greenland, it would just be inhumane!


I'm pulling for ya!

on May 14, 2004

Thanks, Shades.   I have managed to get Outbound Assignments on the case, so hopefully if we do get denied they can be pretty quick about offering us alternative orders and Dave won't have to get extended at Thule.  I'm still hoping and praying that we get to go to England. 

So far today all I have done is cry.  I can't seem to stop.  Every time I think I've managed to pull myself together another wave of tears hits me and I'm blubbing again.  I've managed to give myself a migraine - that's always wonderful.

on May 14, 2004

dharma, I feel so badly for you!  I bet you are yo-yoing between depression and anger/frustration.  What a bunch of crap!!  I'll do my best to send my good luck vortex your way


Best wishes.

on May 14, 2004

Thank-you, Jill.  Both you and Shades are indispensible as sisters and friends!

I'm ok now...I think. Whatever comes to pass...will come to pass.  My worrying about it isn't going to do any good.  We're either going to England or we're going somewhere else - either way we're going somewhere.  I'm angry and frustrated the military left until this late stage to tell us this, but there's nothing I can do about that.

All I can do is hope and pray that HQ approves the package and that we get to keep our orders.

 

on May 14, 2004
OMG!!!! I can't believe that you might have to wait longer than August to see hubby. That's really horrible. You're going to have to get lots of chocolate Man, I'm so sorry to hear about all this. I wish there was something I could do.
on May 15, 2004
If you ever manage to get to England you will come and stay at my estate in Gloucestershire. We will have a wonderful time, perhaps you could talk some sense into my daughter, whilst David and I mount some expensive hookers!
on May 15, 2004
Sir Peter, I think perhaps that last comment was a tad tactless - since Dharma has been pinning over her husband for months and so looking forward to their own reunion
on May 15, 2004
Aww hell, dharma.....

This is certainly not good news. You want this posting so much.
You have my best wishes for either good news on the application, or the speedy return of Dave.

Make that both.

Chin up.... things have a way of working out.

Wreckless.
on May 15, 2004
Dharma, I just read now... I'm here for you, and I am hoping that things turn out all right. Giving good vibes and thinking of you,
Nic.
on May 15, 2004
Dharma~ You have always been there for me when I am having a rough time. If you need to vent or talk or anything, email me
jolynda_anderson@hotmail.com.
on May 15, 2004

Thank-you all for your thoughts and support.  This weekend has sucked ass so far....I've had a perpetual migraine and I had to call my mum this morning and give her the news..I didn't want her to not know and then have HQ deny us again, then the news would be like a bolt out of the blue.  Needless to say she cried, which made me cry (again). I've tried to talk to Dave about it...that's not working.  He says I'm getting myself worked up over nothing, that there's nothing we can do about it so I may as well not worry about it...easier said than done.  He also said that he doesn't care where we go next, as long as we go there together.  I feel the same way, but I can't help but worry.  It's an inbred thing; I come from along line of born worriers.

I'm sure there is a lesson to be learned in all of this, but I'm sure there are easier ways of teaching me.

I'm going to go to bed and try and sleep away the last of this headache....perhaps I'll be able to think more clearly and objectively when I'm not in pain.

on May 20, 2004
It really doesn't matter as long as we're together, that should be and is the focus right now. Home is anywhere that we're together. Thank you all for kind words and thoughts. Sir (using the term loosely) Peter, I must agree with trina_p. While, I'm sure you had good intentions, your comments were not appreciated. Again, thank you all.
on May 20, 2004

Aww...I'm all teary eyed now.

lonesome traveler, in case anyone hasn't figured it out yet, is Dave.

on May 20, 2004

My hope is that the two of you end up in the same house soon.  It is true- home is where you are together.  Don't worry about where the "where" is.

Hope things work out for you, though.  I know that you were really looking forward to getting to England.

on May 20, 2004
dharma and Dave-I know I am reading this a little late in the game, but I just wanted to extend my thoughts and hopes that things work out the best for you. I am sure you both wish you knew what that "best" was at this time, but I know you can persevere through this and will come out on top. Wishing you the very best!