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Published on February 14, 2007 By dharmagrl In Pets & Nature

This evening I will take Henry, his crate and his toys and I will load them all up in my truck.  I'm not going to drive, I'm already crying and I know that I won't be in any condition to handle the road conditions right now.

When I get to our destination, I will hand Henry and his accoutrements over to a man and woman who will be his new 'parents'.  After saying my goodbyes, I'll get back in my truck and I'll cry all the way home.

Henry isn't going to be living with us anymore.  He can't live with us anymore.  He has snapped at the kids one time too many, and none of the methods I've tried to stop him have worked.  It's better for everyone involved if Henry goes to live with people who don't have children and who are better equipped to deal with snappy wee-nah dawgs. 

It's been a horrible decision to have to make; I've lost sleep over it and have cried myself dry a few times.  Henry is MY dog, you see.  He's kept me going through deployments, he's helped me recover from surgery, he's been there to make me laugh and has licked away the tears when they've rolled down my cheeks.  Apart from the snapping, he's a grand little dog - but I simply cannot take the risk that Henry will, someday, bite one of my kids - or even worse, someone else's kid - because that would literally be a death sentence for him.

The people who are adopting him are wonderful people, and they know about daschunds and the way they think.  They've currently got a wire-haired daschund and are incredibly excited about adding Henry to their family.  They have a house with a big yard for the dogs to run and play in, and they spoil the dog they already have rotten - and Henry is going to be no different.  He's going to have the time of his life out there with them, and whilst I'm not happy about having to give him up, I'm glad that he's going to be with them.  I did my homework before I agreed to the adoption; I made sure that they were all that they claimed to be before I told them that Henry would be coming to live with them. 

They ARE all they claim to be, and so, in about half an hour, I'll ask Henry if he wants to go for a ride in the truck (he loves riding in the truck and the car) and we'll go to meet his new parents.  I'll come back home without him....and I'll come home from work tomorrow to a Henry-less house.  That's going to be strange, and I'm expecting there to be some tears. 

I love you, wee-nah dawg.  I'm not doing this because I don't like you anymore, I'm doing it because I love you and because I want you to have a happy life.  Your new momma will spoil you with all kinds of toys and treats, and I want you to be nice to her.  I'll never forget you....I'm going to keep your name tag in my memories box, along with the kids baby teeth and the cards and things they made for me when they were little.

I'll never forget you, wee-nah.  I hope that you don't forget me either.


Comments
on Feb 14, 2007
awww that's so sad.
on Feb 14, 2007

awww that's so sad.

Yes, it is.  It WAS.  Giving him away, I mean actually handing him over, WAS sad, and I cried.  The man and woman who have him now are wonderful people, though.  They treat their dogs like their kids, so Henry is going to be very, very spolied and very, very loved.  He's going to have the time of his life.

It still hurts, though.  I feel empty, like I'm missing a limb or something, and I'm perpetually on the verge of tears.

*sigh* I know that it's the best thing for Henry, and I'm just going to have to keep reminding myself that.

on Feb 14, 2007
You did the right thing and I know how hard it is. I think you were awesome in doing the right thing for your dog.
on Feb 14, 2007
Doing the right thing can sometimes be the hardest thing. I'm sorry Karen.
on Feb 14, 2007
I'm sorry Karen.


Me too.
on Feb 15, 2007
I understand. I'm sorry you had to make that choice, but as always you made a caring concerned choice. It's never an easy decision to make. I hope you will find peace
on Feb 15, 2007
I am sorry Karen.  I know how you are feeling right now.  I wish I could make it better.
on Feb 15, 2007

You did the right thing and I know how hard it is

It's almost like giving up a child.  It hurts.

Doing the right thing can sometimes be the hardest thing

Aint that the truth.

Me too.

Thank you.

I understand. I'm sorry you had to make that choice

You had to give up a dog too, so I know that you understand first hand how it is.  It sucks, but....

I got an email from the new parents this morning, and Henry is playing with their weiner dog and having the time of his life.  That gives me some comfort.

 

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I know that you don't agree with what I did, but I want you to know that I really tried, Sabrina.  I tried all kinds of methods, I took him to doggy obeidience classes, I took him to the vet....none of it worked.  I did what I thought was best - because had Henry actually bitten one of the kids or even Dave and myself, he'd have literally signed his own death sentence.  Not many people are willing to take on a dog that's bitten someone, and had the base officials got wind of the bite, they'd have made us take some drastic action.  So, I did what I thought was best.  At least this way I know that he's with a family who love him and who will spoil him rotten - rather than being in a cage at some humane society. 

I'm sorry that you don't agree with me, but as I said, I did what I thought was best.

on Feb 15, 2007
  I'm so sorry Karen. At least, like you said, it didn't come to him biting someone outside your family which would be a death sentence for him. We had a dog when I was growing up that ended up having rage. The dog snapped on my dad and tore up his hand badly. My dad didn't want to go to the ER because he knew it would be reported what the dog did and the choices would be put the dog down or cage her up permanently.

He did end up going to the doctor and required physical therapy. They had the dog put to sleep. We were all terribly saddened but thought of all of the times that she "got growly" that could have been tragic if she had snapped.

No offense to LW but people who say that their dogs are their children don't have children. Dogs are animals and children should always come first. If a dog is a danger or potential danger, it shouldn't be with kids. Once snap to the face and your child's life will be permanently changed. IMO, no animal is worth that.
on Feb 15, 2007
No offense to LW but people who say that their dogs are their children don't have children. Dogs are animals and children should always come first.


That we know. Sadly.
on Feb 15, 2007
I'm sorry Karen.


Me too.


As am I...
on Feb 22, 2007

Wow, sorry to hear all this!

Dachshunds are very jealous beasts, and can be slightly off their rocker.

I think you did the right thing.  Having a dog that snaps at kids is not a good thing.  Having Henry in a home with no kids and another Doxie *is* a good thing, though.

I don't know how you had the strength to do it, though.  I'm not sure how I would handle it.

Namaste, my friend.  I hope that you are feeling better about it now and your home is more peaceful.