I've been thinking about getting another piercing done.   Over the years I've had various parts of my body pierced, including my tongue, navel, nose and eyebrow (and that's all I'm telling you about!).

For various reasons, I've had to remove all of them.  My navel one was removed because of surgery and wasn't replaced because of the location of the incision.  My nose never really healed properly and was prone to infection (there are staph germs that live naturally in your nose, and apparently those were the cause of my piercing failing to heal), Dave detested the brow one and it was just easier to take it out than to live with his disproval. If I really tried, I could probably get a 14 guage barbell through the hole in my tongue, but to be honest I value my dental health more than I do my tongue stud.  I chipped a tooth on it before, and it was expensive to get it repaired. 

Last summer I saw a piercing that I really liked, and I've been considering getting it done ever since.  It's called an Industrial, sometimes a Scaffold, and it looks like this:

I've called a reputable tattoo and piercing place near here, and they've quoted me a price for it: $40.  Now all I have to do is get Dave's approval.  Before you all go off half cocked and start making comments about how I am a grown woman and I should be able to do what I want, let me explain something to you:  I AM a grown woman, and I CAN do what I want.  However, I find that it's usually in the best interests of my relationship with my husband to get his approval before I go do something like this.  He won't tell me no, and he won't be nasty to me or beat me if I go do it without his approval, but it WILL create a tense atmosphere at home - and I don't like that.  So, I've emailed him and asked him if he'd be terribly upset if I got it done. We've talked about it before, so he knows that I've been wanting to do it - and he actually likes the look of this particular piercing.  So, the odds are that he'll  say yes, of course you can go get it done and I'll be posting photos of my new piercing sometime soon.

I've found that having consideration for your spouse like this can make the difference between a happy home and marriage or a tense, stressful one.  I'd rather ask and have a happy marriage than be headstrong and say 'screw you, I'm going to do what I want' and be miserable at home.

It's just a little thing, but it makes a huge difference.