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Published on December 4, 2006 By dharmagrl In Current Events

Last Thursday night the St Louis area had the worst ice storm in 25 years.  Overnight Thursday hundreds of thousands of people's power supply was interrupted....and today, 5 days after the storm, 240,000 people in the St Louis greater metropolitan area alone are STILL without power. 

The local news has been reporting deaths from carbon monoxide poisoning.  One person had a gasoline powered generator in their home and was overcome by the carbon monoxide fumes - and subsequently died.  Another couple were heating their room by burning charcoal in a wok when they were overcome by CO fumes - and they too died.  Firefighters called to the scene reported that the CO levels in the room were 10 times the lethal level.  I thought that it was simple common sense not to burn things in your home or use gasoline powered equipment without adequate ventilation - I mean, you wouldn't go start your car in your living room and then sit next to it with the windows and doors shut BECAUSE of the CO threat.  I guess what I consider to be common sense isn't universal. 

Where I live we got really very lucky; we had power all throughout the storm.  Our trees, however, were decimated by the ice.  The weight of 1/2" of ice on all the branches and boughs caused a LOT of limbs to come crashing down.  Some people had trees fall on their homes or in their yards, causing minor damage.  The younger trees either snapped completely in two or fell over, causing their root balls to come up and out of the ground. 

It's been dangerous to be outside every day since the storm hit.  On Friday the ice was causing limbs to fall, on Saturday it thawed and big chunks of ice were falling from trees and houses - even from car tops.  We followed a van into town on Saturday and had to swerve out of the path of a big chunk of ice that came flying off of the top of it.  Sunday it thawed again, so it was advisable to NOT be around trees and housing eaves and soffits.  Today it is bitterly cold - so all the ice that melted yesterday re-froze last night, and there's now sheet ice on sidewalks and roads, making for treacherous conditions in some areas.

My brother was in town on business yesterday and he came out to visit us.  He was in awe over the storm and had me email all of my photos of the ice to him so he could show his friends and our family back in the UK.  It was a really good visit, and we were all glad to see him.  He came carrying bags of Christmas gifts from my mum and aunty, and I in turn gave him a bag of gifts to take back to the UK.  He ate breakfast and stayed all morning before heading off to a meeting.  It was the first time I'd seen him since our dad died, so we had a chat about that.   I told him how thankful I was that he and his family were taking such good care of her.  He'd helped her with the benefit forms to apply for death and funeral assistance (both her and my dad are pensioners and are entitled to a certain amount of relief from the government) and she was amazed at hoe much she got back.  Dad's funeral cost just shy of 2000 pounds, and mum was expecting about a third of that back in relief form.  When the check came, however, it was for 1200 pounds, which she was just tickled with.  She's also had her rent reduced to nil per month, and her council and poll taxes have been reduced to ten pounds each - they were in the hundreds of pounds.  So, she's doing well financially.  When I talked to her yesterday she said that the exchange rate was really good right now (almost $2 for every pound) so she's going to buy some dollars in anticipation of coming to see us next spring.  She's going to be doubling her money, which makes me very happy.

We also talked about my uncle.  His wife was my dad's sister - she died last January from what would have been considered medical negligence over here in the US.  She had bowel cancer, but her family physician kept telling her she was simply constipated and sending her home.  It wasn't until she had been in agony for 2 months that he figured something more sinister was going on and sent her to the hospital via an ambulance.  By the time she got there, her intestines had ruptured, and she died on the operating table.  I cannot even begin to imagine the pain that she must've been in.   Anyway, my uncle hasn't progressed through the grief process; he's still got her clothes and her wheelchair and their home is exactly as it was when she was alive.  He's going to the crematorium to sit by her memorial plaque at least once every day and talks about her has if she's on vacation somewhere and will be coming home at any minute.  It's sad, and I wish that I could do something to help.  As an aside, my dad's ashes were scattered in the same place as his sister's ashes....which gives me a strange kind of comfort.

I've taken some more photos:

This is the shot I'm hoping to use as a front for our Christmas cards this year.  I love how it came out - and this is one of the ones my brother liked so much.  I can see why.

 

This was taken on Saturday, and shortly after this was taken I got nailed by this icicle that fell from one of the branches:

That leaf is pretty big; about 6" or so long.  I'm just glad the icicle didn't cause much damage to my head!

Oh, and in case you were wondering, the basketball net thawed enough to let the ball drop through on Saturday afternoon. 


Comments
on Dec 04, 2006
We had a beautiful spruce snap in half one year due to an ice storm. But the good news is that most of the trees getting "prunings" will come back bigger and stronger than before. Ours did.
on Dec 04, 2006
We're just now getting the wintry stuff here, in West Virginia, Eastern Pennsylvainia. Very cold temps and some snow this morning. While you guys were getting buried, we were having late-spring temps and weather. Now we're paying for it.

"He's going to the crematorium to sit by her memorial plaque at least once every day and talks about her has if she's on vacation somewhere and will be coming home at any minute. It's sad, and I wish that I could do something to help."---DG

Let me tell you about the very, very vivid dream I had the other night:

In the dream, I (being the age I am now, 39) came home (which, for some reason, was my grandmother's house as it was in the 70s or 80s....odd how dreams work) from work and the phone rang. I answered it; it was my dad.
As we were talking, I was facing the window, and it began to sleet very badly. I commented to him that, if it didn't clear up I wasn't going to be doing anything that evening. I asked him what he had planned that night. He replied, very casually, that he had nothing planned, because he had died.
In the dream, I laughed and shook it off, continuing the conversation. After a few seconds, I noticed that the line had gone dead. I called back, and my stepmother answered the phone; I chatted with her for a few seconds, and asked to speak to my dad. She was quiet for a second or two, then said, "But hon...he died." As soon as she said that, the line went dead again.
I hung the phone up, and the lamp on the table by the window went out (the dream was so detailed that I remember the faint, bluish light from the streetlight outside as being the only light in the room.....just like it was at grandma's house). I stood in the dark, looking from the now-dark lamp to the phone in my hand.
I put the phone down, then went into the dining room and flicked on the wall switch. The light over the table came on, only to go right out. Once again, I was in the dark, but for the dim glow of the streelight.
I turned slowly, and in that glow, I noticed a candle, unlit and floating in midair.
At the same moment, I smelled cigarette smoke, very strongly. I reached out, and the candle settled in my hand. It was then I saw the orange glow of a cigarette tip. I sat down in the chair by the TV (just as it was at grandma's house) and said "Dad?"
Then I saw him; he was illuminated very clearly....almost sparkling. He took my hand and said "Yep...I'm here."

Then I woke up. That was it.
My dad---a 3-pack-a-day smoker--died of lung cancer in 2002. Every once in a while, I'll have a dream about him, but this one was so very, very vivid, that I think yes...he was there.
The dream started out spooky, yes, but when I woke up, I felt very comforted by it. As I lay there in the dark and thought about it....the phone line going dead.....the lights going out.....that's just the kind of thing he would do, if he were a ghost or something. He had a very weird sense of humor. He'd want to screw with my head a little bit.
Our loved ones who pass on are still with us....they may come and go, but they still hang around sometimes, just to let us know they're okay, and maybe that there's more to life than just flesh, blood and time.

Tell your uncle I'm praying for him
on Dec 04, 2006
Well I could always say that I've seen storms like that myself in Indiana like 10-15 times or so since I'd been living.. but I don't want to be concietious

I understand how bad things can be, and hope fully that things get better there.

on Dec 05, 2006
I like your pick for the Christmas card picture, better than the other one you had. With the branches criss-crossing and fully filling the frame, this one looks more... abstract, maybe.

Please mind your head.
on Dec 06, 2006

But the good news is that most of the trees getting "prunings" will come back bigger and stronger than before. Ours did.

good.  I was worried that they'd all die from their root balls being exposed to the ice and the bitter cold.

Our loved ones who pass on are still with us....they may come and go, but they still hang around sometimes, just to let us know they're okay, and maybe that there's more to life than just flesh, blood and time

I agree that they're still with us, not only in a spiritual sense but in a physical sense.  Energy just changes forms, so the energy that was them has to go somewhere.

 

Tell your uncle I'm praying for him

I will, and thank you for doing so.

Well I could always say that I've seen storms like that myself in Indiana like 10-15 times or so since I'd been living.. but I don't want to be concietious

Dave's from Indiana too, but he's never seen anything quite this bad.  Like I said, this area hasn't seen a storm this bad for a quarter of a century.

Oh, and it's 'conceited'.   

 

With the branches criss-crossing and fully filling the frame, this one looks more... abstract, maybe.

I used a LOT of zoom in that shot.  I wanted to show the thickness and the crackle pattern on the ice, and I'm very pleased with that photo.

I sent some into the local paper, and they used the one of the ball in the frozen basketball hoop on the front page of the online edition last night.