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Published on April 21, 2004 By dharmagrl In Misc
I have to take my kids to the military equivalent of social services today. Someone called in a neglect report last week and said that I leave them alone in the house in the mornings when I go off to work.

That's odd, seeing as I don't have a job. Apparently, I leave for work at 0645, Shea leaves at 0700, and the boys are alone in the house until 0740. Like I said, I don't work, so around that time in the morning I'm usually here, on the computer, e-mailing Dave and reading the paper whilst the kids are showering and getting ready for school.

So, today I have to go try and prove that I don't work, don't have a job, and am not neglecting my children by leaving them alone in the mornings.. My kids are going to have to go with me and be interviewed as well, and I'm really unhappy about that. They're the innocents in all of this, they don't deserve to have to go through this BS. Whilst everyone who has heard about what's going on has agreed that it's all lies, we still have to go, just as a formaility.

Oh, and the person who is doing all this is the same person who called my husband right after I had the vehicle accident last year and told him that I was screwing someone else in our bed. I had 7 broken ribs, a broken collar bone and shoulder blade, pulmonary and cardiac contusions, a dislocated shoulder and torn ligaments in my neck...but I was still fucking someone else.

I'm beginning to feel the first stirings of anger now. I had, for a fleeting moment, a great desire to go smack the shit out of the accuser last night. I didn't, and I won't; doing so will only create more problems for me.

But I am about at the end of my tether.

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on Apr 21, 2004
What kind of penalty will there be for the accuser once the allegations are proven false? I think it should be pretty high in order to deter then from disrupting your life this way. It is really loathsome that you have to pull your kids out of school for this crap.

Best wishes.

BTW, are you feeling any better physically?
on Apr 21, 2004
There won't be any penalty per se....but I can request that my husband's commander contact the accuser's husband's commander and that he be briefed about keeping his dependent "under control". That's really the only recourse I have. Because she's not active duty there's not really much else I can do...and people usually back off once they realize their husband's career can be affected. He can get disciplinary paperwork that goes in his permanent record for failing to make her stop.

I said the same thing, that I wasn't happy about having to pull my kids out of school for this BS. It was pointed out to me, though, that failure to comply as requested can be seen as a semi-admission of guilt...so we're going.

I'm feeling better overall, but today my chest is congested and I feel like I can't move whatever's clogging it up...thanks for asking!
on Apr 21, 2004
Sorry you have to go through this. She must be awfully bored if she has to play these sorts of games.
on Apr 21, 2004
"I'm beginning to feel the first stirings of anger now. I had, for a fleeting moment, a great desire to go smack the shit out of the accuser last night. I didn't, and I won't; doing so will only create more problems for me."

Hang in there, girl. You've got the truth on your side, and hopefully you will talk to someone today with enough sense to realize that. Don't let this accuser's immaturity steal your joy or prevent you from being the bigger person. Do the right thing, and trust that it will all work out in the end. The last thing you want to do is sink to that person's level of stupidity.

Will be praying for you and the kids.

Teresa
on Apr 21, 2004
Will be praying for you and the kids.

Thank you...that got me all teary eyed.

on Apr 21, 2004
Dharma~I am so sorry all of these things are happening to you. But I think what all the other bloggers said here is probably true: You are the honest and truthful one in this situation~so you will come through it okay in the end? I don't blame you for wanting to rough up that fool that is doing this to you. I had a similar situation (long story~I'll save it for another blog) , and was actually investigated because of a stupid lie a vindictive former friend told on me. But I spoke with the officials, and triumphed in the end. I wish unethical folks like your neighbor had to pay a stiff price indeed! This is so unfair to you and your children. But please continue to be brave, and know that many of us here are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers. Hang in there, kid! I'll be wishing you well every step of the way...

~MadPoet

P.S. I hope your physical health starts to improve soon too? You just got so many things on your plate now~and you don't deserve any of it. I will be saying a prayer for your health also....
on Apr 21, 2004
After you are proven to be the innocent person that you are, slap a civil court libel claim against her   maybe that will make her think twice in the future.  (How long until you escape to England?)
on Apr 21, 2004
I'm with you, Dharma. I wish you and your family well throughout all this bullshit. Chin up, I'm thinking of you.
Nic
on Apr 21, 2004
slap a civil court libel claim against her

I'm sending her a 'Cease and Desist' letter after this afternoon's interviews. It's a warning, kind of..that is she doesn't 'cease and desist' her libellous allegations that have no fact to them I will file suit against her. I'm also going to follow through and ask Dave's commander to call her husband's commander and brief him. This has gone too far this time. She can say what she wants about me, but my kids don't deserve any of this....

15 weeks until I can escape this hell. It's going to be a long, long 15 weeks....

..thank you all for your support. It's really very touching...you made me cry!
on Apr 21, 2004
Personally i think you should go poop on her front lawn... but that's just me
on Apr 21, 2004
Personally i think you should go poop on her front lawn

Like her cat shit in my house, you mean?
on Apr 21, 2004
I wonder if you could get a restraining order against her? Along with the libel suit, it might be possible to also file charges for harrasment. I'm not sure if legal proceedings are handled different on a military installation, but it might be worth a shot.

It's really sad that you have to battle against people like this, because it's a waste of your time and energy. Most of the time it's just better to ignore the person, but this sounds like an exception to that rule.

If worse comes to worse I could get my goons Nunzio and Guido and have them rough her up for you.

-- B
on Apr 21, 2004
Reply By: Mr_FrogPosted: Wednesday, April 21, 2004I wonder if you could get a restraining order against her?

We have something called an 'no contact' order in the military. Because she's not active duty, the military cannot discipline, reprimand or otherwise punish her, so I'd have to take it up with the local law enforcement. Harrassment charges are certainly in order as far as I'm concerned, but I want to go with the C&D letter first - kind of a warning shot before the real battle begins. I know people say this all the time, but she really did pick the wrong person to fuck with.
on Apr 21, 2004

What is her motives in this?  He she just pathetic and bored, or what?

What a pain.  I'm sorry that you have to deal with something like this.  I'm sure I wouldn't handle it too well if it happened to me.

on Apr 21, 2004
Her motive is revenge. I pissed her off because I told her and had the AF tell her that she needed to keep her un-neutered tomcat out of my house, garage, and garbage. She's also childish...she got into an argument with another neighbor in front of me and because I didn't take her side, I was automatically against her. I didn't take sides because I didn't want to get involved. This girl also had decals reading B-E-B made up for her and her silly friends on our street..they have a 'gang', called the 'Black Elk Bitches' and they have the decals on the back of their cars. I'm not the only person they're doing this to, I'm just the newest.
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