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Published on March 26, 2006 By dharmagrl In Misc

I'm tired of having red hair.

I'm getting a lot of grey, and when I color my hair red, the grey comes out neon orange.  Consequently I have to make it a 2-step process - I have to dye my hair a medium brown all over to darken the grey, then I wait another day and use the red color.  Sometimes it doesn't work and I end up with the neon orange roots at the front of my head. 

I'm also tired of having short hair.  As I'm getting older I'm finding that short hair is too harsh for my face.  I have to 'do' it every day unless I want to wear a hat, and there are days that I really don't feel like doing my hair.  I don't feel like washing and drying and gelling and spraying and waxing and pomading and all the rest of that jazz (I don't use ALL those products at the same time, but you get my jist).  I want to be able to tie my hair back in a ponytail or simply let it hang loose and air dry.  I want to be able to put it up if there's an event I have to attend or if Dave and I are going out for a special occasion, I want to be able to braid it or wear it in ponytails and play with it and have many different looks with it.  Most of all, I want my husband to be able to run his fingers through my hair when he kisses me.  I can't do any of those things with short hair, the most I can do with it is change the color or the part or brush it forward instead of back.  It ends up looking pretty much the same, no matter how I do it.

I've decided to grow my hair.  In fact, i've already started.  I haven't had a haircut since the disastrous crop back in November of last year (the stylist got fired, by the way, AND the girl who gave me a horible haircut at the base salon is now working at the base barber shop.  I tell Dave to avoid her when he goes and gets his hair cut - I'm afraid he'd come home bald and missing part of an ear if she got her hands on him).  My hair covers my ears now, and it's so soft and silky....there's a promise of glorious long locks in the growing-out semi-style I have now.  People I haven't seen for a while have commented that I'm growing it out and how nice it looks, which encourages me to keep at it and avoid barber shops and beauty salons like the plague.  I've knitted some pretty head bands to wear and I'm fooling around with different looks - curling it under, flipping it up, blow drying it smooth or scrunch drying it so it looks shaggy and piecey.  I'm simply trying to not get frustrated and cut it all off in a fit of pique.

I'm also not going to be red anymore.  I've had a myriad of hair colors in the past 15 years - red, all kinds of brown (carmel, toffee, chestnut, espresso), I even had black with scarlet streaks in it and when I was a teenager I had fuschia hair.  THAT went over well with my parents and the school.  I had to use three boxes of brown hair dye before all the pink was gone.  I'm not afraid of experimenting with different colors - in the past my hair has always been short enough to where if I didn't like what I'd done, I could either dye it dark brown to cover the mistake or simply get it cut again. I'm lucky enough to have a skin tone that compliments almost any hair color.  Black made my pale skin and blue eyes pop, but if I went out without makeup on it looked horribly un-natural.  The browns were all alright, but they were nothing spectacular.  I can carry any shade of red, but reds fade REALLY quickly and require a lot of maintenance to keep their brilliance.  Yes, there are shampoos that claim to prolong the life of your red hair color, but I can tell you from experience that they don't work as well as they say they do.  My bathroom cabinet is like a history of my hair color - there's shampoos and conditioners for reds, color glazes for browns, silicone to add shine to black hair and a bottle of Manic Panic semi-permanent color in fire engine red for when I had scarlet streaks.

So, having decided that I wasn't going to be a red-head anymore, I now had to decide exactly what color I wanted to be.  Black, as I said, looked un-natural on me when I didn't wear make-up.  Summer is coming, and I really don't like to wear a lot of makeup in the sun - I sweat it off in a matter of minutes with the humidity around here, and I also swim a lot in the summer and try to keep my makeup to a minimal amount of mascara when I'm in the water.  Brown...well, I'm bored of brown.  I don't want to be an espresso or even a toffee.  I want something that lively, that will look natural, and that will blend in with my greys.

When I was a little girl, I had hair so blonde it looked white.  As I grew, the blonde got darker and darker, ending up as a dirty blonde with a few blonde highlights.  My mum called it 'fair hair'.

That was the answer.  Blonde highlights in a light brown/dark blonde base.  I had a similar color a couple of years ago, when I was growing my short hair out, and I got a LOT of compliments on it.  I was working patrol at the time, and people would come up to me when I was stopped in my patrol vehicle and tell me my hair was beautiful.  So, I figured that that's the color I should go for again.

Yesterday afternoon, I put a light golden brown color on my hair as a base color.  This morning, I put some mid-blonde highlights in it, and next week I'll put a few lighter blonde highlights in it.  I'm going back to my roots, back to my childhood color and the color I had a few years ago. 

I'm going blonde. It'll blend the grey away (the grey I have is very light, almost white - the blonde will blend in with that really well) and it'll be a nice beach-y summer color.

Dave and I used to listen to Clapton's 'Wonderful Tonight' when we were first dating.  There's a line in it about how Clapton's girl 'puts on her makeup, and brushes her long blonde hair', and Dave used to substitute "short red hair" when he sang it to me. 

I'm going to change that. 


Comments
on Mar 27, 2006
Isn't hair great?

You do look like you could carry blonde well. You'll have to post pictures throughout your growing out process!! Just keep your eye on the prize. There are so many fun things you can do when growing it out. Bobby pins will be your new best friend! I've found that flipping your hair out is the best way to disguise not going to the salon for a while.

I remember when I cut off all of my hair my senior year of high school. I didn't grow it out until I got engaged. It got pretty long, but I felt like it made me look kind of doudy...so as you know, I cut it off again...I am trying to grow it out for Chrissy's wedding, but it's getting absolutley wild..curse wavy hair!!! I am thinking about pulling a Natalie Portman...haha..I'm sure that would go over well...
on Mar 27, 2006

There is a lady at work.  She is a grandmother, but probably younger than me (so is Methuselah for that matter - but I digress).  When I met her, she was blond (she is about 5'10, probably 130 so take that with the next statement) and she appeared petite.  Then she decided to not dye (or dye it I dont know as I do not know her well enough to ask) and it went a silver gray.  She was a cutie both ways!

Then she died it another darker color.  Gaccck!  I hope her husband loves it.  Gray, even on a lady, is not always bad.  Blond can be good, or not.  But the truth is, you wont know until you try it, and if the red is that bad, go for it!  We can start a JU contest on "Guess what color looks best on Dharma!".

I need a win after the NCAA upsets!

on Mar 27, 2006
Just keep your eye on the prize. There are so many fun things you can do when growing it out


Yeah, I'm learning that! I've got some beaded barrettes and I've knitted some funky headbands - I'm making some ones with this gorgeous fuzzy yarn this afternoon, one black and one white with cat ears on them. One I'm done with those, I'm going to make a red one with little devil horns on it!

The last time I grew my hair out I found that flipping it like you said works really well. I didn't keep my eyes on the prize last time....it got to halfway between my jaw and shoulder and I got aggrivated and chopped it all off. I've regretted it ever since. I'm trying not to do that this time.

I'll post photos of it for sure once I've got used to the new color. It's still a shock for me to look in the mirror at the moment!

Don't shave your head! You have such pretty hair, whether it's short or long! If you're trying to grow it, I'd suggest pre-natal vitamins. My hair grew like mad when I was pregnant, and I attribute that to the vitamins. Actually, I should take my own advice and get start taking them myself, huh?