I cry

Published on March 20, 2006 By dharmagrl In Misc

I'm a natural born crier.

I cry over anything. I cry when I'm hurt, when I'm happy, when I'm sad. I cry when I'm excited about something and when I'm disappointed. Any variance of emotion can reduce me to tears.

I think it's okay to cry. I think that the very act of crying is a release of sorts...the old adage 'have a good cry and get it all out' is one that rings particularly true for me. Sometimes when I'm full of emotion over a real-life situation, I'll seek out a movie or a TV show that I know will make me cry. I'll watch it and I'll cry...not just about what I'm seeing on the screen, but also about the things that are bothering me or stressing me in real life. It's simply more socially acceptable to cry over a movie - if I were to just sit and cry, people would become worried about the state of my mental health fairly rapidly. If I have a movie going in the backgound, I can use that as an excuse for my tears and no-one thinks too much of it.

For me, releasing tears is a theraputic act. It helps me think clearly - it enables me to get the muddying emotions out of the way and focus on the issue at hand.

I cry. Do you?

Comments

JillUser

on Mar 20, 2006

I cry easily right now for some reason

I don't normally cry often but when I do, I have a hard time controlling it. I totally lost it at my friend's funeral last year. I think the bagpipes and scottish flute just really got to me.

But I do cry over happiness as well as sadness. I remember crying with joy when my sister won an award for acting in her senior play. I cried when my children and niece were born. Matter of fact, I often cry watching babies on TV or in movies being born.

I too think it is cathartic. I like how you said it allows you to get over the emotional part in order to focus. I feel the same way.

dharmagrl

on Mar 20, 2006

Matter of fact, I often cry watching babies on TV or in movies being born

Oh yeah, me too. That's a sure-fire way to get me blubbing!

I cry easily right now for some reason

I simply cannot imagine why that would be......

Trudygolightly

on Mar 20, 2006

I cry easily too, when I'm frustrated, when I'm lonely. I just don't have the kind of situations anymore that used to provoke tears of frustration.
least not too often! Sometimes I miss my parents so much I find myself with tears sliding down my face..

What gets me is when I'm watching a movie I've never seen before and a scene will take me back to when I was young and I find myself bawling,

xtine

on Mar 20, 2006

I cry too. A lot. But the only person I ever totally let go and bawl in front of is my dad. Yes, I am a daddy's girl.

I was just talking about this the other day with a guy-friend. We were watching American Inventors and he commented that the female judge was too emotional. I compared her to Paula Abdul (A judge on American Idol) and said that it was nice to see strong, professional women allowing themselves to show their feelings in such a natural way. My friend just snorted at me, rolling his eyes and made some comment about "emotional women!" A few days later he was talking up how great President Bush was in admiting that he wept after seeing a news article about an autistic boy who shot 6 3-pointers in his first basketbal game ( a VERY touching story btw).

It IS ok to cry, men AND women.

pseudosoldier

on Mar 20, 2006

Let me be the first guy to chime in: I cry very easily. Heck, it's something that I've been faulted for very recently.

I think it's how I deal with negative emotions. Sometimes I refuse to let myself get angry, and the tears come. Sometimes it's because I'm sad. Sometimes I just feel bad and it happens. (I also know that sometimes it's a social defense mechanism left over from when I was a child, and that's the one I'm working on eliminating.)

Anyway. Yeah. I cry.

crimson

on Mar 20, 2006

I cry, but it's difficult to admit at times. And, sometimes I do feel awkward if someone else cries in front of me. But, this is certainly my own problem, not theirs. I'm impressed with people who are not so self-controlled.

Shovelheat

on Mar 20, 2006

I remember in the movie Saving Private Ryan when Tom Hanks' character walked away from his men after T-4 Medic Irwin Wade was killed and, after making sure he wasn't watched, cried his eyes out and then regained his composure to face his men. To me that scene was perfect- crying to me is like prayer, an intensely personal thing one does alone.

In answer to your question: do I cry? Yes, sometimes I do.

BlueDev

on Mar 20, 2006

I hate to cry. I do it as little as possible. I run from it, fleeing from anything that may make a damnable tear trickle from my glistening eye.

My wife often gets frustrated at my emotional constipation. Every once and a while I will cry, and it freaks her out. She knows just how serious whatever it is I am feeling is if it brings a tear to my eye. And when it happens it is usually a few silent tears that slide down my face. I can count on one hand the times I have really cried since we got married. Heck, I can count them on half a hand.

I have issues.

pseudosoldier

on Mar 20, 2006

I have issues.

Everyone does. Mine happen to be the opposite polarity from yours; the tears come very easily. Even when I manage to regulate myself and speak in an even voice, I might get some of those "silent tears" you mention.

Own who you are, man.

BlueDev

on Mar 21, 2006

Own who you are, man.

Thanks. Good advice, for anyone I think.

I feel that I generally do. I suppose what I find the most frustrating is when people give me crap for not crying. They often assume it is because I am callous or beyond feeling.

Texas Wahine

on Mar 21, 2006

I agree that crying can be really healthy and cathartic. Don't you feel so much "lighter" after a good cry?

I wouldn't say that I cry a lot, but it would be rare for a week or two to pass without something moving me to tears. It doesn't really bother me, and there have only been a few times where I've felt embarrassed to have cried.

If I don't cry for a long time, sometimes it will spill over and I'll actually weep in my sleep. Adrian will wake me up and ask me if I'm ok...I might remember having a sad dream, but a lot of the time, I won't even remember feeling sad (heh, funny but true...if I am...ummm...sexually frustrated...my body will take care of itself in my sleep in that way, too, hahaha).

I think it's nice to see men cry from time to time. To me it shows that they care deeply about something.

pseudosoldier

on Mar 21, 2006

I suppose what I find the most frustrating is when people give me crap for not crying.

I feel guilty when people give me crap for crying. Maybe it's my Catholic upbringing shinging through there, though.

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