No more Ms Nice Grl

I'm getting really tired of the BS

Published on March 11, 2004 By dharmagrl In Blogging

You know, I've been blogging for about a month now.

At first I was totally intimidated by some bloggers - I had to read their stuff over a couple of times before I got the point of what they were talking about, and then I didn't dare respond for fear of getting shot down in flames. All in all, I felt pretty un-intelligent and slow-witted.

There are people here who I think are truly brilliant, way smarter than I am or will ever be, and there are people here who I think probably have the IQ of a peanut. It doesn't matter to me. There are people who are right wing, those who are left, bloggers that are devout Christians and are sure that those who are not are all destined for hell...straight bloggers, queer bloggers, old and young bloggers...a myriad of people who come here to write, for whatever reason they may have. Each person's blog is the way they want it to be, and as far as I'm concerned there's room for all. I read (or try to read) what they write, I try to understand their point of view, especially if it's wildly different from my own..and if I think I have something to add, I do.

In have come to realize in the past couple of weeks, however, that there are certain bloggers on here who's sole aim, it seems, is to make themselves seem intellectually superior to everyone else. It doesn't matter what the topic is, they're there with a comment, usually something that they think is stunningly intelligent or incredibly witty - but to me comes over as pretentious and irritating. They nit-pick at little things instead of dealing with the subject matter of the blog, and criticize everyone's ideas/thoughts/dreams/feelings.....

..and I'm tired of it. Why do people feel the need to do that? I'm not talking about debating here, I'm talking about being pompous and arrogant, about having little or no respect for a person's feelings just as long as you get your comment in there and stun us all with your superior intellect...or what you consider to be your superior intellect, anyway.

I think it's BS, and I think I'm going to start calling it as I see it. I haven't been 'Ms Nice Grl' in the past couple of days, and I have to admit it's been kind refreshing. Yes, I got a little criticism for something I said that wasn't too pleasant, but hey...I'm not perfect and I don't make myself out to be...

..unlike some people.

Comments (Page 2)

Lunaticus Minimus

on Apr 10, 2004

Hey, where is the IQ of a peanut midget in a tutu going to hell line? I'm lost.

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Dan Kaschel

on Apr 10, 2004

You are aptly named.

~Dan

dharmagrl

on Apr 10, 2004

Yes, he is.

JillUser

on Apr 10, 2004

I don't tend to feel intimidated. I know I have strengths in some subjects and not in others. Noone is strong on every subject (even if they think they are).

Dharma, you are very insightful in manners that are different than a lot of the "mental heavy weights" that you are referring to. I don't see why you should ever feel intimidated either.

dharmagrl

on Apr 10, 2004

It's not so much that I feel intimidated...I just don't know enough about some subjects to get into deating issues with seasoned debaters (read Brad, Baker, Steven etc etc).

There are some bloggers here who, like I said, seem to want us to bow down at worship at the altar of their intelligence...but like the Wizard Of Oz, that intellect is usually smoke and mirrors consisting of long, seldom used words and ideas that are repeated parrot-fashion without any real individual input. They're kids, most of them, trying to throw their weight around with idealistic ideas about the world and what's in it ...when they themselves have yet to dip as much as a big toe into the vast ocean that is the real world. Idealism is fine, but add to it self-righteousness without the benefit of experience...that's the recipe that really pisses me off. Makes me want to yell at them to go away and come back when they've grown up a bit, dig?

MadPoet41

on Apr 10, 2004

They're kids, most of them, trying to throw their weight around with idealistic ideas about the world and what's in it ...when they themselves have yet to dip as much as a big toe into the vast ocean that is the real world. Idealism is fine, but add to it self-righteousness without the benefit of experience...that's the recipe that really pisses me off. Makes me want to yell at them to go away and come back when they've grown up a bit, dig?

Dharma~You took the words right out of my mouth (as usual). Are you sure we are not related somehow? Because I wish we were. The world (and especially the cyberworld) would seem a heck of a lot kinder and wiser with more smart and down to earth folks like you in it. Your wisdom, intelligence, and humility truly take my breath away. Now will someone please put John Lennon's "Imagine" on for a little background music, and let's all learn to live together in a more civil and peaceful fashion, huh? I've said it before, and I will say it again~there's only one Dharma: Let us never take her for granted. Ever.

~MadPoet

Sir Peter Maxwell

on Apr 10, 2004

If Dharma wasn't my daughter i would suggest that you attempt to court her Madpoet, but you wouldn't try anything like that with my daughter would you old chap.

But on the subject of your article, who are these people who you think consider themselves superior? i think you should name them dear girl

dharmagrl

on Apr 10, 2004

Aww, Mad, you pay me far too many compliments. Did you read my poems? Please, give me your input...no-one had respond so far, and I'm getting really hesitant to post anything else in that genre...

MadPoet41

on Apr 10, 2004

Sir Peter~you are correct (as always). I understand that I am just a lowly peasant, and would never degrade the fair Maxwell name by attempting to court Dharma. Please forgive me if I wasn't all that clear on that point? I mean, my father was a musician, and my mother~a waitress! (And as if that's not bad enough, they both ultimately became chronic alcoholics and nearly drank themselves to death!) I myself am a shameless college drop-out. And a recovering alcoholic. Plus I'm an American. So you need not fear that I will go chasing after the wise and fair Dharma. BTW? If you would be ever so kind as to put in a brief appearance at the Society~I am curious to know what you think of my humble little Staff list? And would it be acceptable to you if we used your magnificent name as part of our mission statement? How about this: Friends Of Sir Peter Maxwell Society~Live and Let Live. Then Let Them Eat Cake! (Do pop in, and let us know what you think~Sir Peter. We're located in the humor section, so you might have to do a bit of a search! But we are well worth the effort~no finer Society has ever attempted to exist! In fact, our very own Dharma is the House Speaker! ) Hope to see you soon? And Chin up! I knew you would never cave in to all these petty pressures you are so bravely coming to terms with. I mean, there is only one Sir Peter Maxwell in all the world! Don't you agree?

Dharma~I will read (and fall in love with) your most recent poems ASAP. I am truly shocked that more people are not taking a peek? But please take heart! Nobody seems to like poetry anymore. And most poets come to a very sad and tragic end. You already mentioned the great Sylvia Plath? Then there's Anne Sexton. John Barryman. Dylan Thomas~all destroyed by the brutal world! But we will somehow survive! I mean, you have saved my wretched life more than once~and I always promise to do the same for you~dear Dharma. Let us stick together, and not allow the world to make us too depressed! Chin up, and all the rest...

~MadPoet
(President Of The Friends Of Sir Peter Maxwell Society, U.S.A.)

dharmagrl

on Apr 10, 2004

I was looking for you, Mad...I'm glad I found you, I need a seasoned eye and ear to read what I wrote.

In light of this blog about no more Ms Nice Grl, I just let fly at marvin on his blog about what will happen if gay marriage is legalized - and I'm not proud of myself. i held back as much as i could, but right now i just want to hurt him..i mean physically hurt him. that man has the ability to piss me off like no other...!!!!!!!!!!! AAAAARRRRGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!

crimson

on Apr 10, 2004

, I just let fly at marvin on his blog about what will happen if gay marriage is legalized - and I'm not proud of myself. i held back as much as i could, but right now i just want to hurt him..i mean physically hurt him. that man has the ability to piss me off like no other...!!!!!!!!!!! AAAAARRRRGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!

There's only one piece of advice that I could give... blacklist, and do your best to ignore. From the sounds of it, NOBODY appreciates his comments. If he spent some time considering how hurtful his comments are to others and took the time to phrase his opinions better than the way he has been doing, I'd certainly be more apt to reading his stuff. But when he comes out with blatant, homophobic, racist, pornographic shit, I can't even be bothered. At first, I couldn't believe that he actually feels the way that he does, and part of me hopes that it is, in some twisted way, simply an act. But, it isn't. The more people who blacklist him from responding to blogs that go against his way of thinking, the less possible chance that he has of offending and hurting others. I wonder though, how many people would go that far to stop his spread of ignorance. I, for one, am about to put some of the functions created at Joeuser to use.

Jamie Burnside

on Apr 10, 2004

My dog bit me in the leg today,
the cat clawed my eyes.

Mom's been thrown-out of the social circles,
and Dad has to hide.

I went to church, incognito
when everybody rose:

The reverend XXX recognized me,
and punched me in the nose.

He said, "..."

Jamie Burnside

on Apr 10, 2004

Try to use the term: "Billion Dollar Babies" in your next blog. I have a comment for that one too.

Locamama

on Apr 11, 2004

Pretentious jerks are pretentious jerks whether its in real life or on joeuser. Don't let the bastards get you down or "PJ's" which is what I will now call them. I don't think I used enough big words to flex my all powerful brain muscles. Give me some time to research and use my thesaurous so I can make my point more eloquently.

dharmagrl

on Apr 11, 2004

Hahaha!! Locamama got it!!!!

That's exactly what I was talking about....

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