Tentative tenure

Published on February 28, 2005 By dharmagrl In Blogging

I was supposed to have left here by now.

I was supposed to be long gone, with not even a second glance....

....and as you all can tell, I'm still here.

I feel like a fraud. I feel like I wound you all up for nothing, that I made empty and idle threats.

I didn't. I had every intention of splitting. I emailed all the right people and asked them to do all the things I had requested....and they asked me if them taking care of a little business would change my mind.

It has...for now. I'm still here, tentatively. I'm going to see how things go....

....but I can tell you that I am happy to still be here. I was reduced to tears this weekend at the prospect of leaving, and again today at the prospect of being able to stay.

So, I'm here. Again.

How the heck is everyone, anyway?

Comments (Page 2)

Myrrander

on Mar 01, 2005

until she butters everyone up and they bump her status back up. then we'll go through the whole thing again.

it's just a brief reprieve, not a solution

xtine

on Mar 01, 2005

There's a type of behavior modification that I use with my kids, called extinction. (I'm not sure if I made that word up or if I read it somewhere, but hey, it's the word I use). If there's a behavior occuring that I don't like, or don't approve of, I ignore it at first. More times than not the lack of feedback or negative attention cures the problem extremely quickly.

Maybe this would be a case for that?

Dharma: you know I love your stuff! I'm glad you're giving it another go! *hugs*

foreverserenity

on Mar 01, 2005

*Hugs* Dharma, a big fat one and one of those sloppy wet kiss my toddler likes to give me

dharmagrl

on Mar 01, 2005

I hope that the measures taken are enough to breath some life back into what had become (from my observation) a dead past-time for you.

Me too, Dev. Me too. I feel like I lost myself somewhere between Christmas and now...and I'm trying to find myself again. Bear with me...and all the best to you and your lovely (and growing) family too!

Glad you've decided to stay

Thanks, Shovel. Me too.

I haven't gotten to know you well

We can change that, y'know.

Hope your ok. MIss hearin from u.

I'm ok. One of these nights I'm going to try to be online at the same time you are and we'll have a chat, ok?

Glad to see you're still here. I've been busy with homework and job searching.

Cool! Job searching for what, exactly? Oh, and I liked your review of 'Fuel'....

Let me say that you are one of my favorite bloggers.

Wow...well, thank you! I never knew that....but I like it!

Hope you keep in touch no matter what you decide.

I will, I promise. I've been wondering how you got on with everything that's happened recently. Just know that you and yours have been on my mind a lot, even though I haven't emailed or written.

Really, K, if this continues, just leave. Let us know where your new blog is and we'll come visit

You know Marcie, you're one of the few people that understand why I can't let this emotional drain go on. D's leaving, and I need to have my wits and strength about me....deployments, especially the first few days/weeks leave me drained and easily upset. Actually, I think that has a lot to do with why this recent nastiness has bothered me so much...I'm a little apprehensive of him leaving again and just don't have the fortitude to deal with anything else right now.

I will let you know where I'm going (if I go)

Love you too....BAAAAAAAA-AAAAA!

until she butters everyone up and they bump her status back up. then we'll go through the whole thing again.

That's what I'm worried about. That's why I'm still slightly tentative...

If there's a behavior occuring that I don't like, or don't approve of, I ignore it at first. More times than not the lack of feedback or negative attention cures the problem extremely quickly.

Maybe this would be a case for that?

That's what I'm going to start doing....but there are things that you just can't ignore.

Dharma: you know I love your stuff! I'm glad you're giving it another go! *hugs*

Aww, thank you! Right back at you!

*Hugs* Dharma, a big fat one and one of those sloppy wet kiss my toddler likes to give me

Thanks! That was wonderful and I thoroughly enjoyed that!

MarcieMoo

on Mar 01, 2005

Really...I guess I don't understand the animosity...I don't read EVERYONE's stuff...but I don't understand why she just...chomped on you like she did. And frankly, I think you should just ignore her all together. Let her talk trash. Everyone that knows you knows the truth about you. She'll find a new victim eventually. I don't see the purpose in beating a dead horse, and she keeps on beating you and Mike down...I just don't get it. But I'm a teacher too and that makes me horrible because she had bad experiences in school decades ago.

Pffft.

Dan Kaschel

on Mar 01, 2005

Her Dharma...

I didn't read your leaving article until about two minutes ago, so I didn't respond.... but I'm glad that I got to read your "just kidding" article without having to wait for it. I think everybody who's been here a while has planned to leave JU at one point or another, and I'm glad that somebody intervened so you wouldn't have to leave permanently.

Just think how irritating it would be for all the users here for your name to be in the top bloggers for months before it finally disappeared so somebody could take your place! ...not that I've ever been guilty of that...

I'm glad you're still here. God bless.

Dan

dharmagrl

on Mar 01, 2005

She'll find a new victim eventually.

...and that makes me sad, Marcie. I don't want there to be another victim. I don't want anyone else to have to deal with it. No-one should have to be verbally assaulted, have every part of their character and life attacked like that....

I think everybody who's been here a while has planned to leave JU at one point or another, and I'm glad that somebody intervened so you wouldn't have to leave permanently.

Thanks Dan, and yes, I think that you're right.

Just think how irritating it would be for all the users here for your name to be in the top bloggers for months before it finally disappeared so somebody could take your place! ...not that I've ever been guilty of that...

hehe....I hadn't thought about that until just now, actually....but now you mention it.....

Gene Nash

on Mar 02, 2005

I think everybody who's been here a while has planned to leave JU at one point or another,

I have to talk myself out of quitting about once every two months.

I never did post my "The Blogging Dead" article....

Myrrander

on Mar 02, 2005

yeah, i have little hope for a good resolution

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