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Published on January 18, 2005 By dharmagrl In Misc

Witnessing other people's wills and POA's over the past week or so has spurred me into making one of my own.  I don't have much to distribute after I'm gone, but there's a section on the will worksheet that allows me to detail what kind of burial I want (if any).  I like it.  I have some somewhat radical ideas about burial, and I've checked the legitimacy and legality of what I want...so far, all systems are go.

I want a 'green' burial.  I want to be put in the earth, either wrapped in a shroud or in a cardboard casket, and I want to be left there to decay.  I want to let mother earth do her thing with me.  I want to come back as a blade of grass, as a flower, as a tree. 

I DON'T want to be embalmed.  There's no reason to pickle me after I'm gone. 

I DON'T want to be viewed.  I don't want people coming by to look at me when I'm dead, people who perhaps I didn't care for very much in life coming by to say how good I look ...hello, people, I'M DEAD!!!!! I'm not supposed to look good! 

I also don't want a grave liner.  I see no reason for one.  Nor do I want some fancy metal casket...I don't even want a wooden one.  Use the wood to make a bench; plant a willow tree above my grave, put the bench underneath it, and let people come sit and enjoy my shade.  I want either a plain shroud, or if a casket is a must then I want a cardboard one.

Primitive man figured out pretty early on that the best way to dispose of the deceased is to bury them under the ground.  Not only does it take care of the visual and odor problems, decaying folks make pretty good fertilizer too.  Somwhere down the line, we got into the habit of preserving people.....well, it's not for me.

I can't begin to tell you how tickled I am to be able to have my wishes expressed as part of my last will and testament.  This way there will be no doubt, no question, about what I want to happen to me when my body gives out and sets my soul free.  No arguments, no bickering about "what she would have wanted"...it's all there, in black and white.

If I had the money, I'd bequesth 200 acres or so to be used as a 'burial park'.  A place where people who want to be disposed of in the same manner as I could come and have their last wishes granted.  Unfortunately, I don't have that kind of real estate.

But if I did, you can bet your rear end I would.


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on Jan 20, 2005
death is a pretty icky subject, but the way you described how you wanted your funeral...well, it made seem so peaceful, serene, soo....natural...i liked it
on Jan 20, 2005

I've heard of a group that will take your cremains and mix it with cement and such to be dropped into the sea as a replacement base thingy for coral reefs

I saw those on my travels around the internet yesterday.  They're really very cool....

I have always wondered why we waste so much time and money on "preserving" bodies after we're dead. I mean, it's not like we're coming back to claim them or anythin

Exactly!

 

Good post...You have the right idea.

Thank you!

Having smelled burning bodies I can tell ya this... it smells like a pig cooking... sorry if this offends anyone, it is the truth tho.

Having smelt burning human flesh myself, I can attest that he's right!

I'm planning on being kidnapped and dismembered and stored in a big barrel behind a shed in West Texas.

Errmmm.....ooookay, then!

 

I think I'd like to be cremated but I want to be scattered over a special place and I haven't thought about where that would be yet

At least you have some idea of what you want..

 

Lots of states have laws that if you are going to be buried in a public cemetary that you have to have a vault--that cement or metal container that they put the casket in--because if you don't the ground settles. I know the cemetary where my plot is has that rule...I guess I don't know how it works.

There are no state laws that say you have to have a vault of grave liner.  The individual cemeteries might have rules, but there is no law.  Id D wanted to, he could designate our backyard as a 'cemetary', file with the county, pay a small fee, and we could start burying folks there.  As long as the graves are a certain distance from power and water lines, it's all legal.

the way you described how you wanted your funeral...well, it made seem so peaceful, serene, soo....natural...i liked it

Thank you...and death is natural.  American's have a habit of not talking about it, of not dealing with it....when it's all part of life.

I did some legal research yesterday, and as I said I found that what I want to do is all legitimate and legal.  Things might have changed by the time I die, but for now it's all systems go.  So, I'm meeting officially with one of the attroney's I work for next week, and we're drafting my will to reflect my wishes.

on Jan 20, 2005
wooo hooo. That is for me baby. I never saw the point in spending thousands of dollars on burial expenses. Stick me in a sack and throw me in the ground. Take the money and have a big party! I'd rather have people having fun then mourning me....
on Jan 20, 2005

I never saw the point in spending thousands of dollars on burial expenses. Stick me in a sack and throw me in the ground. Take the money and have a big party! I'd rather have people having fun then mourning me....

Me too!  Go on vacation or something, don't waste money on a pretty (god awful) casket that's just going to get buried underground anyway. 

I want to go back to the earth the raised me; that sustained me my whole life.  I want to go back to where I came from and begin the life cycle again.

on Jan 20, 2005
Errmmm.....ooookay, then!


He he he . . . it was a (lame) joke . . .
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