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Published on June 2, 2004 By dharmagrl In Misc

..with nobody else.  Gotta love George Thorogood, huh?

Yes, I drink alone.  No, I'm not an alcoholic.  I don't drink every night and I rarely drink to excess, but that's neither here nor there.  I drink alone because I find that alcohol removes what I like to call my 'truth filter'.  I like to think of myself as a somewhat tactful person, and when I've had a few drinks that vanishes.  I'm blunt...painfully so sometimes.  So, in order to maintain friendships and relationships, I drink alone.  Occasionally I'll make an exception and have a few with really close friends....those who I've already spoken my mind to or who I know won't take offence to my lack of tact, but for the most part I don't get inebriated in public, or even with acquaintances. 

The reason I blog about this now is because I'm drinking.  Tonight.  Right now, actually.  I re-read my blogs, and in my alcohol-fuzzy state was really tempted to edit and re-post them, this time with names.  I read some other people's stuff and was again tempted to leave comments, this time saying what I felt in a much less...errmm...nice way.  Luckily (for me) I'm not drunk.  I'm not lit.  I'm not even buzzed (almost, but not quite).  So, I won't do any of that.  I'll keep my 'truth filter' firmly in place and be as tactful as I can be, even if what's being said makes me madder than a wet hen. 

I highly reccomend that some of you do the same.  Even if you haven't been drinking.


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on Jun 02, 2004
I tend to have the same "truth filter" problem when I drink; however, I am not yet wise enough to limit who I drink with...one day I will learn!
on Jun 02, 2004

Then you and I should get tipsy together, Shades......actually, I think that I'd like to get lit in your company.  You, Jill, Karma, Poetmom....I think that would be fine company.

on Jun 02, 2004
and Nicky G! Add her and I think we've got a party!
on Jun 02, 2004
Hell yeah!  She's been so scarce around here, I forgot...sorry Nic!  Woo hoo, the JU Sisterhood out on the town....can you imagine the havoc?!
on Jun 02, 2004
Hah, I would love to read some of your comments without the "truth filter" dharma. Heck, I would even love to hear what the tact-removed dharmagrl has to say about my own stuff!

For me it happens when I am tired. I just forget about tact then, and let it all hang out. Which is why I usually don't blog then!
on Jun 02, 2004

Hah, I would love to read some of your comments without the "truth filter" dharma

Email me and I'll tell.

on Jun 02, 2004
Hey! I'll buy the first round, sisters!

I'm actually a pretty tame drunk. I can drink, but I like to listen to everyone else dish. Sometimes I go crazy and end up kissing strangers, but I know my limits. I do have a lot of fun, though. I can't see not having any fun with any one of us. Impossible.
on Jun 02, 2004

I can't see not having any fun with any one of us. Impossible.

Somewhere, somehow, someday......

 

on Jun 02, 2004
I also become extremly honest! It has got me in trouble.....
on Jun 02, 2004

Ooh, Janders!  You'd be on the list to go drink as well.....

Yes, my honesty gets worse the more I consume. 

on Jun 02, 2004
Oooo... I have never been included in a "clique" before.... I feel so special/
on Jun 02, 2004
dharma,
I reckon truth filters are essential for a harmonious society. I think everyone loses theirs to some extent when they start drinking. I have come across two people who seem to feel it is some sort of badge of honour to tell people the truth (as they see it) about the person they are talking to. They seem to feel obliged to point out a persons faults whether asked to or not and they dont need to be drinking, it's in their nature. What really annoys me is that their comments are never positive and they do it in such a patronisingly sanctimonious way, as if they are bestowing a great gift on you.
Sorry, bit of a rant.....I'll just get that truth filter back in place.....
on Jun 02, 2004

Rant away Gerry, I'm listening...

And I agree with you.

I have no truth filter at all at the moment, so I'll just shut up and go back to my beer...before I say something blunt!

on Jun 02, 2004

I know this has nothing to do with this thread..well it does sort of....I just saw the term truth filter used elsewhere on this site and used most appropriately to boot.

Trina_P, you absolutely rock!

on Jun 02, 2004
I don't know that I drink alone to avoid issues with others... it's not really alcohol that creates those issues for me, anyway. In fact, I got into a bit of an argument with SGT Monobrow tonight, because I decided not to go over to the Scot's hotel to drink. Hmm.
Last time I went on a bender was a couple of weeks ago in California, and I exercised much restraint. It was others with me who went four sheets (Monobrow again). I just don't want to be the guy who projectile vomits any more. No more pseudo-frat for me.

dharma - you convinced me to come over and post... I felt it wasn't fair to you to carry on a conversation where someone else's blog got all the points.
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