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What is it about hormones men find so distasteful?
Published on May 2, 2004 By dharmagrl In Misc

You know, I love my husband.  He's an awesome guy, and a great dad.

He does one thing, however, that I simply don't understand, and it's starting to irritate the heck out of me.

Our daughter is in the first throes of puberty.  Because Dave's away, he doesn't see the physical and emotional changes that are happening with her.  I try to tell him about it, and his standard response is:

"I don't want to hear anymore, thanks"

Like an ostrich sticking it's head in the sand, Dave doesn't "want to hear anymore".  "Why?"  I ask.

"Because I know what's going on and I just don't want to talk about it" is all he'll say.

What is it about hormones and women men have such a hard time with?  Why don't they like to talk about it?  I mean, I understand that Shea is his child and that he might, as a father, feel a little uncomfortable discussing subjects such as menstruation and sex with her...but to refuse to discuss it at all, with me, her mother?  I'm perfectly comfortable talking to the boys about growing up and puberty...I simply don't understand why he won't talk to ME about it.

 


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on May 04, 2004
Ooooooooh, that waskily wabbit!  I hate answers like "you just wouldn't understand" or "nevermind".  You can't even beat it out of him because he isn't there!
on May 04, 2004
Dharma,

I am afraid to have a daughter just because i will have to deal with said issues.

Male single parents have my eternal respect for that very reason!!!

just deal with it woman!!!

BAM!!!
on May 04, 2004

just deal with it woman!!!


I AM dealing with it, I HAVE to deal with it. 


Muggaz, I think that you're going to have 3 or 4 little girls, and thay're going to give you a hell of a time when they get older...because they're going to be just like you!

on May 04, 2004

Jill, you're exactly right.  I have tried every interview technique I know to try and get it out of him, and it's not working.  The thing is, he's more experienced at interviews and interrogations than I, so recognizes my clumsy attempts to get him to answer and utilizes diversion tactics.


That's ok; he'll be home in 12 weeks (yay!!!!!!) and he can deal with it face to face then. 

on May 04, 2004
It's true! I don't want to know and I don't need to know!!! Looking at it, I probably know more than I want to.
on May 04, 2004
Hey, Dave, welcome aboard!  Sorry my friend, you do need to know.  You helped create this monster, you have to help domesticate it   I am sure Dharma didn't sign on to be a single parent so buck up and rise to the occasion.  It isn't as bad as you are thinking.
on May 04, 2004

Dave gave himself away....

I love you, ad infinitum baby.

on May 09, 2004
It's the opposite here. I had all the talks with my daughter about femine hygiene, birth control, boys are scum, etc. My wife didn't seem to want to handle it
I think she got that from her mother. Their family just doesn't talk about things like that. "Leave it to the schools" I heard my MIL say once.
Some fathers just can't handle things like that. Some mothers can't either. Maybe it's because they were raised that way, who knows.
on May 09, 2004

Maybe it's because they were raised that way, who knows.


I think that may be a factor here.  Dave wasn't raised to talk about feelings or issues, and he's not a 'touchy feely' kinda guy.  I think that has a lot to do with his refusal to talk about stuff.


 

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